Take Control Of What S Controlling You

We've all known someone who just can't seem to break free of a cycle of self-defeating and destructive behavior based on personal appetites that are out of control. Or perhaps we've suffered the consequences, big or small, of addictive behavior in our own lives. Stephen Arterburn offers insight and hope for anyone whose life has spun out of control due to addictions. His revolutionary and refreshing approach to recovery positively recognizes and affirms that our capacity to enjoy and savor life is a gift from God that must be fed for us to be healthy. From there, he helps readers identify and understand what personal needs they are really seeking to fulfill through their problematic behaviors, and lays out a proven step-by-step plan that enables them to reclaim control of their relationships, career, personal happiness-and life.

It's easy to identify rage in people who lose their temper at traffic jams, unruly children, unresponsive coworkers, and unrealistic bosses. But we may not recognize more subtle manifestations of anger, such as being uncomfortable with loose ends, acting impatiently, or being overly critical. That is anger, too. And, as is so often the case, angry folks don't seem to realize that the behavior causing them problems at home or at work actually stems from unrecognized and unresolved pain and emotional injuries from the past. Is all this negative emotion inevitable, or are there choices about how to respond, choices that can improve personal relationships as well as emotional health? The Anger Trap is a landmark book that strips away the myths and misconceptions about anger and reveals how you can learn to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger so that you may choose—or help someone else to choose—a better, more spiritually enlightened path. The Anger Trap examines the root causes of anger and can help you realize your patterns and break the destructive cycles of criticism, frustration, and irritation that hurt you and others around you. Drawing insight from timeless spiritual wisdom as well as cutting-edge research, Dr. Carter offers practical techniques to free you from anger, its hidden insecurities, fears, and selfishness and thereby improve the quality of your home and workplace life. The book clearly illustrates how the change process works and The Anger Trap is filled with real-life examples of the ways people have come to terms with their anger by applying the concepts Dr. Carter outlines.

Learn how to 'break the spell' of control with Patricia Evans' new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small - revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a 'spell-breaking' mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.

Learn to manage your anxiety with this classic self-help book from a respected pioneer of psychotherapy. From social anxiety to phobias to post-traumatic stress disorder, sources of anxiety in daily life are numerous, and can have a powerful impact on your future. By following the rules of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), created by world renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, you can stop anxiety in its tracks if you will admit this important fact: Things and people do not make you anxious. You do. Your unrealistic expectations produce your needless anxiety. Yet not all anxiety is needless . . . Healthy anxiety can ward off dangers and make you aware of negative things that you can change. Unhealthy anxiety inhibits you from enjoying everyday activities and relationships, causes you to perform poorly, and blocks your creativity. Using the easy-to-master, proven precepts of REBT, this classic book not only helps you distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anxiety, but teaches you how to: • Understand and dispute the irrational beliefs that make you anxious • Use a variety of exercises, including rational coping self-statements, reframing, problem-solving methods, and Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA), to control your anxiety • Apply over two hundred maxims to control your anxious thinking as well as your bodily reactions to anxiety . . . and much more, including examples from dozens of cases Dr. Ellis treated successfully. Now you can overcome the crippling effects of anxiety—and increase your prospects for success, pleasure, and happiness at home and in the workplace. “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today

Help for anger management — from NYT bestselling author Gary Chapman Anger is a cruel master. If you struggle even a little with anger, you know how it feels to get mad too easily. To lash out at someone you love. To hold onto frustration. You might even notice others seem uneasy around you. You know anger is hurting your life, but you don’t know how to fix it. There is hope. When you understand why you get angry and what to do about it, you can change the course of your life for the better. In Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion, counselor Gary Chapman shares surprising insights about anger, its effect on relationships, and how to overcome it. His advice and real-life examples will help you: Understand yourself better Overcome shame, denial, and bitterness Discern good anger from bad anger Manage anger and conflict constructively Make positive life changes Let go of your grudges and resentment Help others (like your children) deal with anger and more Whether your anger is quiet or explosive, if it’s clouding your judgment and hurting your relationships, it needs to go. Learn to handle anger in healthy ways, starting today. Gary Chapman is wise and empathetic, and he'll help you turn over a new leaf.

Don't let anger harm your health, career, and relationships: “No individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today Anger is universal. Unchecked, it can cause lasting damage in our lives: wrecked relationships, lost jobs, even serious disease. Yet in these increasingly stressful times, all of us have acted in anger—and often wished we hadn't. Is there a way that really works to solve problems and assert ourselves without being angry? The answer is a resounding yes, if you follow the breakthrough steps of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). This proven approach, developed by world-renowned psychotherapist Dr. Albert Ellis, has withstood the test of time, helping countless people deal effectively with emotional problems. Using easy-to-master instructions and exercises, this classic book will show you how to apply REBT techniques to understand the roots and nature of your anger, and take control of and reduce angry reactions. Here you will discover: The rational and irrational aspects of anger Special insights into your self-angering beliefs How to think, feel, and act your way out of anger How to relax How to accept yourself with your anger . . and much more that will help you challenge and eliminate the anger that can frustrate success and happiness at home, at work, anywhere.

In this no-nonsense, relevant book, Weiss helps readers identify and discern the sources of their worst behaviors. Using stories, case studies, personal experience, Scripture, and anecdotes, he makes strong points about emotional and psychological roots and the need for change.

IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP CARING OR CONTROLLING? Your partner: * Calls you all the time when you are not with them. * Wants you to spend all your time with them because they miss you too much when you are not with them. * Tells you what to wear because they want you to look your best. * Doesn't like your friends / family because they aren't good for you. * Asks you a million questions before you go out because they want to make sure you are safe. This book will help you gain clarity about your relationship and identify whether your relationship is caring or controlling? WHO IS THIS BOOK FOR?Anyone, who since being with their partner, is feeling lost; confused; questioning who they are; not able to recognise themselves anymore; feeling trapped within their relationship; AND feeling they aren't good enough.It will also be useful and helpful for anyone who has just walked out of a controlling or abusive relationship. WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT FROM THIS BOOK? You can expect to breathe a sigh of relief, feel reassured, and empowered with the insight, awareness and confidence required to take the necessary steps to ensure your relationships are happy, healthy and stress-free. Some readers may also feel self confident and self assured enough to bring up the subject issue with a family / friend that they suspect might be stuck in an unhealthy relationship. WHY YOU SHOULD BUY THIS BOOK? (1) Tried and tested advice: The book is a practical guide and framework, put together by a therapist through observations and experience of working with individuals facing unhealthy, controlling or abusive relationships. The advice is a tried and tested approach which has helped clients release themselves from the "hold" of a controlling / emotionally abusive relationship, enabling them to move forward in life with self belief, self acceptance and self love. (2) Important issue which requires ongoing awareness raising: Many individuals will struggle to or find it difficult to speak up about an unhealthy, toxic or abusive relationship due to reasons of fear, insecurity, confusion, uncertainty or doubt within themselves. Some of the tips in this article could empower individuals with the confidence, clarity and certainty required to acknowledge and accept that they are in an unhealthy situation that requires action.