The Codependency Manifesto

If a child’s parent teaches that child to steal and cheat to survive, is it the child’s fault if they eventually find themselves in trouble with the law? What happens to a child, in many ways, is what leads to what a child becomes. Subconscious beliefs that are not turned over like stones become the paths to future life experiences, good or bad, healthy or not.

The Codependency Manifesto is designed to help you learn to question your mind. To live a truly authentic life, we must learn to observe how our mind operates—or be doomed to repeat the patterns, beliefs, and perceptions we have been groomed to accept as truth through the experiences of childhood. This book allows readers from all walks of life to envision a new reality for themselves. It shares life-changing insights and tools that will help you forge a greater understanding of self and find the road back to the real you!

[This book] is nothing short of a codependency manifesto. In it you will not only learn deep insights about the true causes of the codependent mindset, but you will also be given the tools you need to heal your childhood programming once and for all. --Author.

Healing and Recovering from Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self-Esteem This story is told through the jagged peephole of the author's awareness, examining her formative wounds and influences from the perspective of a woman who has now gained experience and wisdom. As she peers over her soul's shoulder, she recalls the chaos of her once-fragile childhood mind. She shudders as she is reminded of the sting of her lonely childhood, her feelings of abandonment, and her painful memories of being bullied. Her childhood self was once so lost that she even contemplated suicide. As the years progress, her mind is riddled with obsession, compulsion, and a crippling sense of low self-esteem. A turning point arrives many years later, after marriage and the birth of three children. This story is about healing the faulty programming of childhood. It is about recovery from relationship addiction, food addiction, anxiety, and constant fear. It is a human story that will resonate with readers from all walks of life, and which offers hope to anyone who has felt imprisoned by the past.

Ending a toxic relationship can sometimes make us feel like we are going insane. Because we are so enmeshed with the other person, we feel nothing but fear, doubt, confusion, shame and even guilt when we consider terminating the relationship. Although we can hear a little voice inside our heads urging us to move forward, all too often our worries overwhelm us and cause us to stay stuck. We no longer know whose thoughts or feelings are in our heads. All we can feel is fear. If you are contemplating ending a relationship you know in your heart must end, but are struggling with crippling negative emotions, Lisa’s story is just the right dose of inspiration you will need as you begin facing your new roads ahead. No stranger to heartache, Lisa bravely ended her dysfunctional marriage and took her three small children with her. With nothing to cling to but hope, Lisa courageously learned to navigate her way through unknown terrains, and eventually found the will to even love again.

Much like gravity, the law of attraction is a natural law of the universe, and one that governs every interaction you ever have. You can only attract into your experience those things that resonate with you on an emotional and or vibrational level. It is no coincidence that women who marry alcoholics had alcoholic fathers, grandfathers or uncles. What a child experiences in childhood determines that beings emotional set point; their point of attraction. If your childhood was full of pain, it is not by chance that your adult life experiences are just as painful. This book uses the principles of the law of attraction to help you move past your past. It is a must read for anyone struggling with addictions, troubling relationships, codependency and or other negative personal issues. This book has the potential to heal the world on a global level, as it reveals the true hidden secrets of the law of attraction and how to harness its power to transform people from all walks of life for the better. Healing, abundance, peace and joy are your birthright. Unravel the mystery of your vibrational nature and manifest the truest desires of your heart by applying the knowledge contained in this powerful book. There is nothing you cannot overcome by applying the secrets contained in this book to your own circumstances. Learn how to take control over your emotional and vibrational nature so to help re-create your point of attraction, so you can have the life you have always dreamed of.

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER · INSTANT INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER From Dr. Nicole LePera, creator of "the holistic psychologist"—the online phenomenon with more than two million Instagram followers—comes a revolutionary approach to healing that harnesses the power of the self to produce lasting change. As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical and spiritual wellness that equips people with the interdisciplinary tools necessary to heal themselves. After experiencing the life-changing results herself, she began to share what she’d learned with others—and soon “The Holistic Psychologist” was born. Now, Dr. LePera is ready to share her much-requested protocol with the world. In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for SelfHealing as well as an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from a diversity of scientific fields and healing modalities, Dr. LePera helps us recognize how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, resulting in whole body dysfunction—activating harmful stress responses that keep us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviors can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell. In How to Do the Work, Dr. LePera offers readers the support and tools that will allow them to break free from destructive behaviors to reclaim and recreate their lives. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, this is a celebration of empowerment that will forever change the way we approach mental wellness and self-care.

"This little book is intended to help you remember who you are. Your current life's circumstances are a reflection of what you believe you are worthy of on a subconscious level. The key to deliberately manifesting the life you desire, is found in healing your subconscious belief systems. Use these affirmations daily and often to help you uncover lost truths that may be hindering your ability to ultimately love and accept Self"--Page 4 of cover.

A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.