The Happy Couple S Handbook

If you're about to walk down the aisle, you want every day to be as happy as your special day. However while there is lots of advice on planning a wedding, there's precious little to prepare you for the rest of your life together. If you're lucky your mother will offer a few tips and your father will makes some jokes but otherwise you're on your own. Perhaps it's some years since you promised to love and cherish each other and the pressures of everyday life have taken the shine off things. Throw in the sort of crises that everyone faces at some point—like financial problems, losing a parent, family rows and infidelity—and it's easy for the love between the two of you to be seriously damaged. So what are the secrets of happy couples that stay strong rather than grow apart? In this groundbreaking book, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall, explains that it's not chemistry that keeps partners connected but skills. It's likely that you didn't learn these skills as a child because your parents didn't know them or couldn't explain them. Maybe they avoided conflict, fought like cat or dog or split up when you were young so never showed you to fall out safely, make-up and resolve differences. Fortunately, it's never too late to learn how to communicate better and repair your relationship—even if you're on the verge of splitting up. Marshall draws on thirty plus years working with over three thousand clients to give you his tried and test tool kit for a happy marriage. It includes: -The rules for constructive arguments. - How to be a better listener. - Use carrots rather than sticks. - How to forgive and move on.

If you're about to walk down the aisle, you want every day to be as happy as your special day. However while there is lots of advice on planning a wedding, there's precious little to prepare you for the rest of your life together. If you're lucky your mother will offer a few tips and your father will makes some jokes but otherwise you're on your own. Perhaps it's some years since you promised to love and cherish each other and the pressures of everyday life have taken the shine off things. Throw in the sort of crises that everyone faces at some point—like financial problems, losing a parent, family rows and infidelity—and it's easy for the love between the two of you to be seriously damaged. So what are the secrets of happy couples that stay strong rather than grow apart? In this groundbreaking book, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall, explains that it's not chemistry that keeps partners connected but skills. It's likely that you didn't learn these skills as a child because your parents didn't know them or couldn't explain them. Maybe they avoided conflict, fought like cat or dog or split up when you were young so never showed you to fall out safely, make-up and resolve differences. Fortunately, it's never too late to learn how to communicate better and repair your relationship—even if you're on the verge of splitting up. Marshall draws on thirty plus years working with over three thousand clients to give you his tried and test tool kit for a happy marriage. It includes: - The rules for constructive arguments. - How to be a better listener. - Use carrots rather than sticks. - How to forgive and move on.

Written by the authors of How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free, this book is a handbook for couples who need tools to be happy in their relationships. It's a handbook on how to achieve mutual happiness, through cooperative negotiation and communication. Couples are led through a step-by-step process whereby each one learns how to take care of what he or she wants and care for a partner's happiness at the same time. The clear and concise instructions and guidelines teach couples the skills they need to create a mutually supportive partnership allowing each individual to be satisfied in their relationship. It is based on The Negotiation Tree, an ingenious tool that can help any couple turn a struggle or fight into a cooperative problem-solving session. The book is designed especially for: * People who seek a model for equal partnership. * Couples who want to transform struggle into teamwork. * Couples who are married, cohabiting, or dating. * Couples who are in a traditional or alternative relationship. How to Be Happy Partners is the perfect tool for designing and creating a relationship unique to your individual personalities and situation. With it, any couple can learn to work together to create a loving, sustainable, healthy, and happy partnership that both will treasure.

The Wiley-Blackwell Handbook of Couples and Family Relationships presents original articles from leading experts that link research, policy, and practice together to reflect the most current knowledge of contemporary relationships. Offers interesting new perspectives on a range of relationship issues facing twenty-first century Western society Helps those who work with couples and families facing with relationship issues Includes practical suggestions for dealing with relationship problems Explores diverse issues, including family structure versus functioning; attachment theory; divorce and family breakdown; communication and conflict; self regulation, partner regulation, and behavior change; care-giving and parenting; relationship education; and therapy and policy implications

How to be Happy Though Married by E. J. Hardy is a guidebook for just marrieds on how to have a thriving marriage, with quotations and stories from distinguished persons during the late 19th century. Excerpt: "To men of a shyer and more nervous temperament, to be married without chloroform is a very painful operation. They find it difficult to screw their courage to the marrying place. On one occasion a bridegroom so far forgot what was due to himself and his bride as to render himself unfit to take the vows through too frequent recourse on the wedding morn to the cup that cheers—and inebriates. The minister was obliged to refuse to proceed with the marriage. A few days later, the same thing occurred with the same couple; whereupon the minister gravely remonstrated with the bride, and said they must not again present themselves with the bridegroom in such a state. "But, sir, he—he winna come when he's sober," was the candid rejoinder. It is possible that this bridegroom, whose courage was so very Dutch, might have been deterred by the impending fuss and publicity of a marriage ceremony, rather than by any fear of or want of affection for her who was to become his wife. Even in the best assorted marriages there is always more or less anxiety felt upon the wedding-day."

Create Relationship Habits that Bring a Lifetime of Happiness Our Habits run our days. And our days run our relationships. Learn how to establish the Habits that can transform your connection with your partner so you can finally have the loving relationship you’ve always dreamed about. Tina and Michael LeBlanc, relationship experts and married couple, will guide you through the process of setting up a firm foundation of key relationship principles, and will teach you the 10 essential Habits you can build into your life to bring more joy and happiness. This book is a concrete guide with specific tips and exercises to complete with your partner. The 10 Habits of Happy Couples will walk you through: •The 5 Foundational Elements of a Happy Relationship •The 10 Habits of Happy Couples •Tina and Michael’s personal journey through the 10 Habits •How to understand your arguments and learn how to exit from your negative communication patterns •Learning the skills of tuning into yourself and developing emotional risk taking with your partner •Incorporating our proven “CPR” Process to help you repair from arguments and disconnection and create a resilient bond •Improving your ability to tune into your partner using our ‘ABC’s of Love’ method •Determining if you and your partner are ‘Connection-Seekers’ or ‘Safety Seekers’ and the role these play in your relationship •How to actively bring self-compassion and respect into your relationship