The Joy Of Later Motherhood

Did you ever Google “pregnancy after 35” or “getting pregnant at 40” for helpful advice and inspiration on your way to motherhood? Did your excitement and hope turn into disbelief and shock when your search turned up millions of gut wrenching stories on the risks and dangers of later pregnancies and the staggering rise of age related infertility in women? The Joy of Later Motherhood is the much-needed antidote to all the negative hype surrounding motherhood at advanced maternal age (which is 35+). Written by seasoned journalist Bettina Gordon-Wayne—herself a first-time mom at 44 and the third generation of women in her family who did not get the memo that conceiving a baby after 40 is dangerous, if not outright impossible—The Joy of Later Motherhood is: Positive, honest, deeply human, and an inspiring guide to mature motherhood that will undoubtedly boost your fertility and your chances of getting pregnant; Full of real-life stories and helpful insights of more than 40 women over 40 (and top natural fertility experts) who all had natural pregnancies and healthy babies. With love and candor these women tell of heartbreak—like infertility diagnosis and miscarriage—and triumph—from healing diseases to finding their faith. They share their stories in order to empower other women to approach the topic of later motherhood from a position of strength and courage and to show them what’s possible and, in fact, natural. If you are looking for a medical book focused on only the physical aspect of pregnancy, this may not be the right one for you. The Joy of Later Motherhood is written by experts of a different kind. It’s written from the perspective of the women who actually achieved what millions of women are striving for: naturally conceiving a healthy baby after 35 and, especially, after 40. You’ll learn how to prepare for pregnancy, even if you choose in vitro fertilization or were diagnosed with unexplained infertility or were trying to get pregnant for years. You’ll get advice on how to get pregnant naturally and what natural family planning methods worked for other women. But maybe most importantly, you’ll learn that trying to get pregnant is not just a physical matter, but also a matter of the mind and maybe even your spiritual beliefs as these women attest to. The Joy of Later Motherhood is for you if the following rings true: You hear your biological clock ticking, but you don’t want to be in a panic about it like everyone else. You are afraid that your body may fail you. Or that your contradictory thoughts—“I would love to have a baby, but I don’t think I can give up my freedom!”—may influence your fertility. You feel alone and isolated because you’ve already experienced more than your fair share of heartache. You need different perspectives to help you go on. You wonder if it is fair to a child to have older parents and whether he’ll have to shoulder the burden of an ailing mother or father long before his peers. Maybe you are worried or are upset. Maybe you doubt that motherhood will ever happen for you. We get it. We’ve been there. With our stories, we want to lovingly see you through this journey as much as we can. We’ve got you.

Did you ever Google "pregnancy after 35" or "getting pregnant at 40" for helpful advice and inspiration on your way to motherhood? Did your excitement and hope turn into disbelief and shock when your search turned up millions of gut wrenching stories on the risks and dangers of later pregnancies and the staggering rise of age related infertility in women? The Joy of Later Motherhood is the much-needed antidote to all the negative hype surrounding motherhood at advanced maternal age (which is 35+). Written by seasoned journalist Bettina Gordon-Wayne--herself a first-time mom at 44 and the third generation of women in her family who did not get the memo that conceiving a baby after 40 is dangerous, if not outright impossible--The Joy of Later Motherhood is: Positive, honest, deeply human, and an inspiring guide to mature motherhood that will undoubtedly boost your fertility and your chances of getting pregnant; Full of real-life stories and helpful insights of more than 40 women over 40 (and top natural fertility experts) who all had natural pregnancies and healthy babies. With love and candor these women tell of heartbreak--like infertility diagnosis and miscarriage--and triumph--from healing diseases to finding their faith. They share their stories in order to empower other women to approach the topic of later motherhood from a position of strength and courage and to show them what's possible and, in fact, natural. If you are looking for a medical book focused on only the physical aspect of pregnancy, this may not be the right one for you. The Joy of Later Motherhood is written by experts of a different kind. It's written from the perspective of the women who actually achieved what millions of women are striving for: naturally conceiving a healthy baby after 35 and, especially, after 40. You'll learn how to prepare for pregnancy, even if you choose in vitro fertilization or were diagnosed with unexplained infertility or were trying to get pregnant for years. You'll get advice on how to get pregnant naturally and what natural family planning methods worked for other women. But maybe most importantly, you'll learn that trying to get pregnant is not just a physical matter, but also a matter of the mind and maybe even your spiritual beliefs as these women attest to. The Joy of Later Motherhood is for you if the following rings true: You hear your biological clock ticking, but you don't want to be in a panic about it like everyone else. You are afraid that your body may fail you. Or that your contradictory thoughts--"I would love to have a baby, but I don't think I can give up my freedom!"--may influence your fertility. You feel alone and isolated because you've already experienced more than your fair share of heartache. You need different perspectives to help you go on. You wonder if it is fair to a child to have older parents and whether he'll have to shoulder the burden of an ailing mother or father long before his peers. Maybe you are worried or are upset. Maybe you doubt that motherhood will ever happen for you. We get it. We've been there. With our stories, we want to lovingly see you through this journey as much as we can. We've got you.

Over the past three decades, skyrocketing numbers of women have chosen to start their families in their late thirties and early forties. In 2005, ten times as many women had their first child between the ages of 35 and 39 as in 1975, and thirteen times as many had their first between 40 and 44. Women now have the option to define for themselves when they're ready for family, rather than sticking to a schedule set by social convention. As a society, however, we have yet to come to terms with the phenomenon of later motherhood, and women who decide it makes sense for them to delay pregnancy often find themselves confronted with alarmist warnings about the dangers of waiting too long. In Ready, Elizabeth Gregory tracks the burgeoning trend of new later motherhood and demonstrates that for many women today, waiting for family works best. She provides compelling evidence of the benefits of having children later -- by birth or by adoption. Gregory reveals that large numbers of women succeed in having children between 35 and 44 by the usual means (one in seven kids born today has a mom in that age range), and that many of those who don't succeed nonetheless find alternate routes to happy families via egg donation or adoption. And they're glad they waited. Without ignoring the complexities that older women may face in their quest to have children, Gregory reveals the many advantages of waiting: Stronger family focus: Having achieved many of their personal and career goals, new later moms feel ready to focus on family rather than trying to juggle priorities More financial power: New later moms have established careers and make higher salaries Greater self-confidence: New later moms have more career experience, and their management skills translate directly into managing a household and advocating for their children More stable single-parenting: New later moms who are single have more resources High marriage rate: On average, 85 percent of new later moms are married, lending stability to the family structure Longer lives: Evidence indicates that new later moms actually live longer than moms who start their families earlier Based on in-depth interviews with more than 100 new later moms and extensive collateral research, Ready shatters the myths surrounding later motherhood. Drawing on both the statistical evidence and the voices of the new later mothers themselves, Gregory delivers surprising and welcome news that will revolutionize the way we think about motherhood.

First you need an education, then a career. You might want to see a bit of the world and find yourself. You have to meet the right man (this is often the tricky part!). Before you know it, you're in your thirties and they're telling you to get a move on if you still want to procreate. Hang on a minute, who's in charge here? Later mothers are proven to be more secure emotionally and financially than younger mothers and nearly a quarter of all women in the UK are now having babies after 35. Packed full of useful tips from top medical experts, scientists and pregnancy gurus, this book is a complete guide for the woman who's lived a life before breeding. It includes: • preparing for pregnancy and motherhood • how to improve egg quality and prolong fertility so you can get pregnant naturally • exercises, relaxation techniques, mind-body connection for conception • how to increase your chances of success at IVF • making the most of your pregnancy, month by month • ways to avoid miscarriage • how to have the best birth possible • from me to mum – adjusting to lack of sleep, relationship changes and that other job • parenting secrets and concepts from around the globe to inspire new mothers • the latest research in neuroscience, nutrition and psychology

A daring, funny, and poignant novel about the desire and duty to procreate, by one of our most brilliant and original writers. Motherhood treats one of the most consequential decisions of early adulthood—whether or not to have children—with the intelligence, wit and originality that have won Sheila Heti international acclaim, and which led her previous work, How Should a Person Be?, to be called "one of the most talked-about books of the year" (TIME magazine). Having reached an age when most of her peers are asking themselves when they will become mothers, Heti's narrator considers, with the same urgency, whether she will do so at all. Over the course of several years, under the influence of her partner, body, family, friends, mysticism and chance, she struggles to make a moral and meaningful choice. In a compellingly direct mode that straddles the forms of the novel and the essay, Motherhood raises radical and essential questions about womanhood, parenthood, and how—and for whom—to live.

...a graceful, touching, ironically titled tale. - John Updike A new edition of her classic novel to coincide with the publication of her other works in the African Writers Series. Nnu Ego is a woman devoted to her children, giving them all her energy, all her worldly possessions, indeed, all her life to them -- with the result that she finds herself friendless and alone in middle age. This story of a young mother's struggles in 1950s Lagos is a powerful commentary on polygamy, patriarchy, and women's changing roles in urban Nigeria.

Women who opt not to be mothers are frequently warned that they will regret their decision later in life, yet we rarely talk about the possibility that the opposite might also be true—that women who have children might regret it. Drawing on years of research interviewing women from a variety of socioeconomic, educational, and professional backgrounds, sociologist Orna Donath treats regret as a feminist issue: as regret marks the road not taken, we need to consider whether alternative paths for women currently are blocked off. She asks that we pay attention to what is forbidden by rules governing motherhood, time, and emotion, including the cultural assumption that motherhood is a “natural” role for women—for the sake of all women, not just those who regret becoming mothers. If we are disturbed by the idea that a woman might regret becoming a mother, Donath says, our response should not be to silence and shame these women; rather, we need to ask honest and difficult questions about how society pushes women into motherhood and why those who reconsider it are still seen as a danger to the status quo. Groundbreaking, thoughtful, and provocative, this is an especially needed book in our current political climate, as women's reproductive rights continue to be at the forefront of national debates.

At the age of thirty-nine, Sarah Kowalski heard her biological clock ticking, loudly. A single woman harboring a deep ambivalence about motherhood, Kowalski needed to decide once and for all: Did she want a baby or not? More importantly, with no partner on the horizon, did she want to have a baby alone? Once she revised her idea of motherhood—from an experience she would share with a partner to a journey she would embark upon alone—the answer came up a resounding Yes. After exploring her options, Kowalski chose to conceive using a sperm donor, but her plan stopped short when a doctor declared her infertile. How far would she go to make motherhood a reality? Kowalski catapulted herself into a diligent regimen of herbs, Qigong, meditation, acupuncture, and more, in a quest to improve her chances of conception. Along the way, she delved deep into spiritual healing practices, facing down demons of self-doubt and self-hatred, ultimately discovering an unconventional path to parenthood. In the end, to become a mother, Kowalski did everything she said she would never do. And she wouldn't change a thing. A story of personal triumph and unconditional love, Motherhood Reimagined reveals what happens when we release what's expected and embrace what's possible.