The Lies Couples Believe

Are faulty beliefs damaging your marriage? If you are experiencing conflict, anger, or hurt in your marriage, you don’t need positive thinking or an escape clause—you need to replace the lies you believe with God’s transforming truths for your relationship to become all that it was meant to be. According to Dr. Chris Thurman, everyone enters marriage with misguided attitudes and expectations such as: “My spouse is a bigger mess than me.” “The purpose of marriage is to be happy.” “My spouse should meet all my needs.” This practical book dismantles the ten most common lies couples believe and helps you renew your mind with God’s truths for a more caring, close, and connected marriage.

Expose the Lies. Understand the Truths. And Make Your Marriage Better than Ever! Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture—and in our churches. But the corresponding truths can strengthen your marriage and even save it from collapse. 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage identifies the lies, explains how they can disintegrate your marriage, and reveals truths that can rescue it and help it to become the marriage of your dreams. Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of Hope Restored, a renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, combine to offer an unusual and powerful combination of perspectives that can restore hope and healing in any marriage, including yours. What Are the 9 Lies about Marriage? Love Lie #1: And They Lived Happily Ever After Love Lie #2: 1 + 1 = 1 Love Lie #3: All You Need Is Love Love Lie #4: I Must Sacrifice Who I Am for the Sake of My Marriage Love Lie #5: You Must Meet Each Other’s Needs Love Lie #6: Our Differences Are Irreconcilable Love Lie #7: I’m Gonna Make You Love Me Love Lie #8: “Your Love Is Driving Me Crazy!” Love Lie #9: You Win Some, You Lose Some Do any of these lies resonate with you? Read 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage and start exposing the lies and living the truth. Includes several self-tests to help you and your spouse assess the extent to which your marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.

In a world that is veering dangerously off course from what it calls “truth” comes a classic work that unmasks the lies we unwittingly believe, lies that destroy us and ultimately damage our emotional health, relationships, and spiritual life. In this completely revised and updated edition, psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman guides the reader through the lies we believe about ourselves, relationships, life, men, women, and, most important, God. He then unpacks the twelve essential truths for emotional health and the truth about God—the ultimate source of Truth. This easy-to-follow guide to renewing the mind helps identify problem areas and the midcourse correction needed in how we view ourselves and our world. With discussion questions and biblical support, this timeless classic is required reading to help develop the mind of Christ and be able to experience the abundant life.

A guide to stopping the lies and renewing your mind. Psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman tells us the unvarnished truth about the most common lies we tell ourselves, how they damage our emotional and spiritual health, and what we can do to overcome them in this 25-lesson workbook based on the classic bestseller, The Lies We Believe. The Lies We Believe Workbook is designed to help us recognize our faulty beliefs, internalize the truth that can set us free, and grow into more mature and passionate followers of Christ. As we work diligently on developing a more biblically accurate view of reality, we are transformed in the process. To put it differently, when we learn to think more like Christ we can be more like Christ. On your own or with some friends, take the challenge to work out your mental salvation by pulling down toxic mental strongholds, building truthful strongholds in their place, and being transformed by the renewing of your mind. When we do this, we can experience the abundant life God intended for us to live. Each lesson includes: A self-assessment questionnaire to rate your faulty beliefs Study of the biblical truth that leads to freedom Key memory and meditation verses for renewing your mind Prayer for contemplation and reflection

This newly repackaged edition examines the lies people tell themselves that damage emotional health, relationships, and spiritual life. Psychologist Dr. Chris Thurman guides the reader through part one that identifies the different areas of self-lies, religious lies, marital lies, distortion lies, and worldly lies. Part Two delves into the issues of what is truth, and Part Three deals with how to live the truth, ultimately revealing the freedom that can only come from one thing-believing and telling themselves the truth. An extremely easy-to-follow guide filled with comprehensive workbook exercises, this edition is a way to help people experience the emotional health, intimate relationships, and spiritual fulfillment they are seeking. Previous editions: 0-8407-3192-2 and 07852-7343-3

Counter the lies that keep you from abundant living. Satan is the master deceiver and his lies are endless. And the lies Christian women believe are at the root of most of their struggles. "Many women live under a cloud of personal guilt and condemnation," says Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth. "Many are in bondage to their past. Others are gripped by fear of rejection and a longing for approval. Still others are emotional prisoners." In best selling Lies Women Believe, Nancy exposes those areas of deception most commonly believed by Christian women—lies about God, sin, priorities, marriage and family, emotions, and more. She then sheds light on how we can be delivered from bondage and set free to walk in God's grace, forgiveness, and abundant life. Nancy offers the most effective weapon to ounter and overcome Satan's deceptions: God's truth!

The lies that society teaches are the number one cause for unhappiness. From "I must be perfect" to "My spouse should meet all my needs", Dr. Thurman takes a look at the lies that make people miserable and the truths that can set them free.

Grandchildren are a wonderful blessing, and they need the best advice possible for their lives to turn out well. As a proud granddad, Dr. Chris Thurman passes along advice he has gleaned from his many years as a person of faith and psychologist. While written for his grandkids, this book can be helpful to all young people and the parents and grandparents helping them live a fuller and healthier life. Some of the biblically-solid advice offered in this book includes • Hang around good people • Think the right thoughts • Be angry, but don’t act the fool • Be content with little • Guard your heart • Let others toot your horn • Be grateful, even for your problems • Do the hard things first In Pop’s Advice, Dr. Chris Thurman guides our children and those of us raising them in a time-tested direction so their lives can be all God intended. The advice in this book can help not only our young people but those of us who are older trying to make our way through life. Regardless of age or situation, Pop’s Advice can guide all of us to live life in a way that goes beyond all we could have ever hoped for or imagined.