The Object Of My Affection Is In My Reflection

In her latest book, relationship expert Rokelle Lerner, tackles the innerworkings of narcissism and offers compassionate and realistic advice for surviving a relationship with those afflicted with this personality disorder. A Narcissist can make life exhilaratingly exciting one minute, and shear hell the next. A narcissist has no qualms about taking another's money, love, admiration, body or soul to satisfy their unquenchable hunger. They are not inherently evil, but unfortunately their wounds compel them to act in ways that are sometimes unconscionable, damaging, and ultimately tragic. Whether a mother-in-law, friend, coworker or boss, sometimes it's impossible to avoid narcissists, so instead of being miserable or taken advantage of, Rokelle Lerner shares her insights on the dynamics behind this personality disorder to give readers the tools to cope with narcissists, including: Learning to see narcissists as they see themselves Creating defense factors to ward them off Maintaining a balanced relationship based on mutual love, not one-sided narcissism

Isn’t it time you stopped walking on eggshells? Learn how with this fully revised and updated third edition of a self-help classic—now with more than one million copies sold! Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are ‘walking on eggshells’ to avoid the next confrontation? If the answer is ‘yes,’ someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD)—a mood disorder that causes negative self-image, emotional instability, and difficulty with interpersonal relationships. Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped more than a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this difficult disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised third edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research on comorbidity, extensive new information about narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the effectiveness of schema therapy, and coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD or NPD sufferer in your life. This compassionate guide will enable you to: Make sense out of the chaos Stand up for yourself and assert your needs Defuse arguments and conflicts Protect yourself and others from violent behavior If you’re ready to bring peace and stability back into your life, this time-tested guide will show you how, one confident step at a time.

Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Practice makes perfect. Winning isn't everything, it's the only thing. Failure is not an option. In today's perfection-obsessed culture, these are the maxims we live by. Yet, the damage that they cause is stifling. Renowned author and pioneer of codependency treatment Ann W. Smith knows this first hand. Smith has dealt with her fair share of perfectionism and has bared witness to this all too common phenomenon in her professional life, having spent the last thirty years studying the impact compulsive disorders have on individuals and family. While perfectionism lacks much of the stigma attached to today's most common compulsions—smoking, gambling, sex addiction, alcoholism, and drug abuse—many of the negative connotations on self and the family system are the same. Psychological and physical implications include: Headaches Isolation Anxiety attacks Fear of failure Sleep disturbances Digestive problems Back pain Overeating Sexual dysfunction Depression Suicidal thoughts or tendencies An inability to establish proper boundaries Overly critical of others The need to be in control Excessive guilt and shame In this revised and updated edition of the original, groundbreaking book Overcoming Perfectionism: The Key to a Balanced Recovery, Smith describes the key differences between overt and covert perfectionism; the role early attachment, temperament, sibling relationships, and life circumstances play in developing this pattern; and how to shift toward a center of balance for a more fulfilling life. Readers will learn how to identify and confront the root cause of their problem, how to reveal and accept their essence, and finally, they will learn the importance of forgiveness and letting go. Additionally, readers discover the key characteristics of a healthy family system, along with the single most important lesson of all—perfection does not exist.

More than just a book full of the latest information, this is a dynamic, interactive, and personalized journey of recovery for those impacted by adverse childhood experiences (ACES). Finally, they can put their past behind them where it belongs! For those who have grown up in a family with addiction, mental illness, or other adverse childhood experiences (ACES), the heartache and pain doesn’t end when they grow up and leave home. The legacy can last a lifetime and spread to generations unseen, as author Janet Wotitiz first showed readers in the groundbreaking Adult Children of Alcoholics. In The ACoA Trauma Syndrome Dr. Tian Dayton picked up where Dr. Woititz left off, filling in the decades of research that tell us why pain from yesterday recreates itself over and over again in our today. In The Soulful Journey of Recovery, Dr. Dayton gives us the how. There is a journey of recovery that you can start today. Simple, elegantly written and researched, poignant, penetrating, and on point, Dr. Dayton will move with you through the confusion, pain, and anger you may carry in secrecy and silence. Through engaging and enlightening exercises, you will give voice to hidden wounds and space to your innermost emotions and thoughts. Online links will also offer guided meditations, film clips and other tools to enhance the work you do in the book. You will learn what happened to you growing up with dysfunction and you will learn how to deal with it in the present. You will discover that recovery is a self-affirming life adventure, and the kindest and best thing you can do for yourself and future generations. Some books can change your life. This is one of them.

The newest addition to the popular Quick-Reference Guide collection, The Quick-Reference Guide to Addictions and Recovery Counseling focuses on the widespread problem of addictions of all kinds. It is an A-Z guide for assisting pastors, professional counselors, and everyday believers to easily access a full array of information to aid them in formal and informal counseling situations. Each of the forty topics covered follows a helpful eight-part outline and identifies (1) typical symptoms and patterns, (2) definitions and key thoughts, (3) questions to ask, (4) directions for the conversation, (5) action steps, (6) biblical insights, (7) prayer starters, and (8) recommended resources.

We all have family members who push our buttons. Some are poor communicators, others are anti-social, and the rest are out to make our lives a misery! With a strong emphasis on empathy and emotional intelligence, the book offers practical advice on how to break dysfunctional family dynamics, and interact effectively with other members.

On the journey through significant personal transition, emotional pain, struggle, and fear are inevitable, and all of us are in the same boat. No one is immune to loss and difficult times. We are all challenged, knocked down or wounded by life sometimes. Transforming these occurrences into an enriching experience is a choice. Choosing to transcend trials and tragedies and grow from them is a spiritual decision and moves us further up the spiral of growth. This work is meant to inform, touch, and inspire readers to do just that. The author tells the story of learning to live more fully and consciously as she moved through times of extreme anguish, bewilderment and loss. She describes how “The 4 Rs” helped her transcend those trials. These are the fundamentals that see us through tough times. With stories, information and exercises, the book provides valuable guidance for weathering the storms and navigating the byways of life, moving readers toward acceptance, authenticity and meaning.

“A compact but thorough guide to successfully handling and surviving a divorce.” —PsychCentral The bestselling author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers draws on her expertise in treating men, women, and children damaged by narcissists in this practical guide to divorce and its aftermath. Narcissism—a personality disorder that goes beyond mere selfishness and vanity—is a prevalent cause of marital and family problems. Narcissists do not have the capacity to love, understand other people’s emotions, or feel empathy. They are grandiose in their need for praise and attention, they overestimate their abilities, and they diminish people around them with emotional abuse. Being in an intimate relationship with a narcissist destroys your hopes, dreams, and peace of mind and erodes your children’s emotional health and your finances. Does this sound like what you have to deal with? If you ever look at your partner and wonder in despair if you will ever be free, the answer is yes, you can be. A leading authority on narcissism, Dr. Karyl McBride offers proven therapeutic advice that will help you protect and nurture yourself and your children through your difficult divorce, from separating from your narcissistic partner and navigating the court system, where a narcissist can be especially destructive, to a restorative healing program of trauma recovery.