The Science Of Self Talk

Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it's out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk and, how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions. Some people's self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it's an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative. If you listen carefully, you'll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn't random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs. In The Science Of Self-Talk mindfulness expert, Ian Tuhovsky, explains how we can re-write the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation. Learn how you can listen to and understand your internal dialogue in order to change it. Many of us practice negative self-talk by default - how many times have you called yourself an idiot or chastised yourself for not being good enough? Negative self-talk is a harmful habit which can lead to anxiety, depression and helplessness and, yet, this is something that most of us do on a regular basis. For many people, this is learned behaviour whereby caution against boasting leads to self-criticism or self deprecation. For others, this is a natural reflection of the self and one that can slowly corrode self esteem. This unique book covers: ●Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference.●The impact of negative self-talk●Learned helplessness●Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?●The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.●Creating the right circumstances for motivation●Getting to know yourself●Loving yourself - emotional intelligence●Turning down the volume on your self-talkIn the past, people who engaged in negative self-talk or self-criticism were often labelled 'perfectionists', insinuating that it's actually a positive thing but it's so much more damaging than that. Learning to identify our negative self-talk behaviour is the first step toward freeing us from its grip. With the right tools, we can change our internal dialogue, opening ourselves up to new opportunities, increased self-esteem and confidence. More than just a self-help manual, The Science of Self-Talk is a Positive Psychology Coaching Series which explains the roots of self-talk, or, intrapersonal communication. The book explains that these are the thoughts that we 'hear' with the auditory part of our brain and which add a kind of commentary to our daily life. Self talk is a little like turning on the director's commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie or you can add in commentary about what's happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science Of Self Talk can help you to re-write the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

Change your self-critic into your biggest cheerleader. Our behavior comes from our thoughts, and our thoughts come from our beliefs. Thankfully, our self-talk can change this entire sequence and allow us to control our own fate. Quit self-sabotage and stop your negative thoughts before they happen. Transform Your Self-Talk is all about changing the narrative you’ve told yourself your entire life. It’s probably disempowering and robbing you of the belief you should have in yourself. We shouldn't start our days facing defeat. This book will dissect every mental habit you possess and rebuild your self-talk from the ground up. Start each and every day knowing that it is yours to conquer. You are what you believe. Will you take advantage of this? Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology. Stop living in your head and start living the life you want.

"Negative Self-Talk and How to Change It is an immediately helpful, life-changing handbook of how to deal with negative self-talk -- for yourself, or anyone in your life. Shad Helmstetter, Ph. D., the best-selling author of more than twenty books, is the leading authority in the field of self-talk today. In this 60-Minute Book written for today's reader, Dr. Helmstetter gives you all of the important information you need to change negative self-talk forever, in a short, easy-to-read, and condensed format. Also included is a special Guide to Changing Your Self-Talk from The Self-Talk Institute"--Page 4 of cover.

Self-talk matters, but what methods of building healthy self-talk actually work? This how-to guide shares evidence-based techniques to go from being your own worst critic to your own best friend. Perhaps you want to be nicer to yourself but don’t really know how to get there. Or maybe you’re someone who assumes self-criticism is a permanent part of your personality. Rest assured you’re not alone—millions of people struggle with the toll that excessive self-criticism takes on their minds, energy levels, jobs, and relationships. And problems with self-talk vary dramatically from one person to the next: they can appear as mild but persistent inner criticism, full-blown self-loathing, or the pain of internalized oppression or abuse. After over twenty years of working with individuals, groups, and classes on self-criticism and related challenges, psychologist and mindfulness teacher Dr. Rachel Goldsmith Turow offers the “self-talk workout”—six doable exercises that can help you replace self-criticism with self-kindness and self-encouragement. Specific self-talk strategies such as “Spot the success,” “Fail forward,” and “Allowing all feelings, skillfully,” require just a few minutes a day. These skills can be practiced individually to transform your self-talk, or you can choose to combine two or more exercises to enhance your self-talk workout. Each chapter features a core exercise, variations on the strategy that might feel right for you, scientific studies supporting each approach, and success stories to inspire your own practice. Turow includes examples from her own life and experiences as a psychotherapist, as well as lessons from her students and respected public figures such as Michelle Obama and Thich Nhat Hanh, to show that the burden of harsh self-criticism need not go on forever: the way that we relate to ourselves can be changed.

"Powerful new techniques to program your potential for success"--Cover.

80% of the average person's inner mental chatter is negative. But everyone has the power to change theirs. Want to achieve your goals, be more content with yourself, and live your best life? Don't let negative thinking hold you back. Changing how you talk to yourself in your thoughts is the most effective way to change your approach to your exercise routine, diet, relationships, work and life. After reading this book you will know how to: Apply better mental strategies and tricks to daily life through changing negative thinking into positive thinking Use simple exercises to expand your thinking Declutter your mind of unproductive thoughts Finally achieve the things you couldn't motivate yourself to do before Approach your relationships to others and yourself with better understanding with self love Stop racing thoughts Stop worrying Gain distance and necessary perspective from your thoughts

We live immersed in thought. But do we actually know what a thought is? To answer this question, psychology professor Charles Fernyhough draws on everything from neuroscience to literary history to grasp the true nature of this most inscrutable of acts: thinking. Whether a medieval saint who hears voices or a writer absorbed in an imagined world, a daydreamer riding the subway or a captivated reader, we experience thought as a creative inner dialogue featuring multiple voices. Fernyhough uses this conception to demystify mental illness, showing that imagining voices is intimately linked to the feeling of artistic production. Drawing on literature, film, and psychology, as well as cognitive science, The Voices Within is a poetic venture into the depths of our mind. It will revolutionize the way we hear and understand the voices in our heads.

"A true devotee works independently of the world outside and draws his inspiration, equanimity and ecstasy from the source within himself"- Bhagavad Gita Verse 12.16As per a study, it is found that on an average, in a day, we have 45000 to 55000 thoughts which translate into 25 to 35 thoughts in a minute. More than 90% of these thoughts are involuntary and the majority of them are negative. It means our mind keeps on fluctuating throughout the day.We have 2 minds; Conscious and Subconscious. The conscious mind is an active mind which is thinking, observing and doing everything with attention. Like you are reading this synopsis or when you are playing any sports like chess or when you use remote for changing TV channels. While the subconscious mind is subjective in nature and responds to whatever is stored into it. It's like a recording machine which records everything irrespective of the quality of input data (good or bad). It works in autopilot mode for different activities like walking, swimming, driving, wearing trouser, speaking. Throughout the day whatever we think and store in our subconscious mind creates our destiny. The onus lies on us to shape our destiny. If we allow Garbage in, then only Garbage will come out. So, it is important to watch our thoughts.As per the research, it has been concluded that we cannot control our thoughts, but we can always direct it where we want it to be. Self-Talk plays a very important role in directing our thoughts, wherever we want. There are different ways of doing self-talk like Verbal, Non-verbal, written and recorded. Throughout the day, knowingly and unknowingly, we are creating positive and negative self-talk, which makes us the person we have become today. We can always change whatever we want to change provided we are clear, why we want to change and when we want to change. "Choose your self-talk wisely, it is up to you!"