To The Unloved Daughter

There's so much that so many daughters have never heard from their mothers: from advice to support, to compliments, to validation, to encouragement. Perhaps you do not have a mother who is able to say these things to you, or perhaps you have a mother who won't. To the Unloved Daughter is a daybook of the loving words you need to hear.

A self-help book based in science, the result of more than a decade of research, Daughter Detox offers the daughters of unloving mothers vital information, guidance, and real strategies for healing from childhood experiences, and building genuine self-esteem. Writer Peg Streep lays out seven distinct but interconnected stages on the path to reclaim your life from the effects of a toxic childhood: DISCOVERY, DISCERNMENT, DISTNGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, and RECOVER. Each step is clearly explained, and richly detailed with the stories of other women, approaches drawn from psychology and other disciplines, and unique exercises. The book will help the reader tackle her own self-doubt and become consciously aware of how her mother's treatment continues to shape her behavior, even today. The message of the book is direct: What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort. The book begins with DISCOVERY, opening up the reader's understanding of how she has been wounded and influenced by her mother's treatment. Recognizing the eight toxic maternal behaviors-dismissive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unreliable, self-involved or narcissistic, combative, enmeshed, or role-reversed-lays the foundation for the daughter's awareness of how her way of looking at the world, connecting to others, and ability to manage stress were affected. DISCERNMENT delves into the patterns of relationship in her family of origin and how they played a part in her development, and then shifts to looking closely at how the daughter adapted to her treatment, either silencing or losing her true self in the process. Next up is DISTINGUISH, seeing how the behavioral patterns we learned in childhood animate all of our relationships in the present with lovers and spouses, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. The act of distinguishing allows us to see why so many of us end up in unsatisfying relationships, chose the wrong partners, or are unable to develop close friendships. Active recovery begins with DISARM as the daughter learns how to disconnect unconscious patterns of reaction and behavior and substitute actions that will foster the growth of self-esteem. Understanding the triggers that set us off, the cues that put us on the defensive, and the default positions of blaming ourselves and making excuses for other people's toxic behavior are addressed, as are unhealthy behaviors such as rumination, rejection sensitivity, and more. RECLAIM is the stage at which the reader begins to actively make new choices, preparing herself so that she can live the life she desires by seeing herself as having agency and being empowered. Making new choices and figuring out how to manage her relationship to her unloving or toxic mother is the focus of REDIRECT. There are stories to inspire and challenge your thinking, exercises that show you how to swap out self-criticism for self-compassion, guidance on how to use journaling as a tool of self-discovery and growth, and advice on goal setting.Finally, RECOVER challenges the reader to come up with a new definition of what it means to heal, suggests tools to overcome the obstacles she places in her own way, and strategies to become the best, most authentic version of herself.

From a childhood of abuse came loneliness, fears, and torments in my life. Then going through a nervous breakdown, an abusive marriage, and a desire no longer to live, one day miraculously it all began to change. Reading my testimony you too will come to realize that God not only protected me, but God Himself is now using my yesterdays for His Glory. God saved me to be here for each one of you. The spark of life that seemed to no longer be within me was still present, and burns more than ever brighter today. Never did I imagine after raising a family that God would so powerfully come into my life. It all began in 2003 when He led me and my husband to attend Bible College in Colorado. Then upon graduation we were ordained as ministers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. God had already let us know that we were to be founders of Message of The Cross Ministries, which today gives me more joy then I had ever hoped for in this life. Just as my earlier life began as a mighty disaster, this now new life in and through Jesus Christ has just the opposite effect and meaning! Traveling is one of my desires, and I patiently wait to see yet more of God's creation and beauty for all of us. Without Jesus Christ I am weak; with Him I am strong. He is my all.

From a childhood of abuse came loneliness, fears, and torments in my life. Then going through a nervous breakdown, an abusive marriage, and a desire no longer to live, one day miraculously it all began to change. Reading my testimony you too will come to realize that God not only protected me, but God Himself is now using my yesterdays for His Glory. God saved me to be here for each one of you. The spark of life that seemed to no longer be within me was still present, and burns more than ever brighter today. Never did I imagine after raising a family that God would so powerfully come into my life. It all began in 1993 when He led me to Yugoslavia on a pilgrimage, and then in 2003 to Bible College along with my husband. After we graduated we were ordained as ministers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. God had already let us know that we were to be founders of Message of The Cross Ministries, which today gives me more joy then I had ever hoped for in this life. Just as my earlier life began as a mighty disaster, this now new life in and through Jesus Christ has just the opposite effect and meaning! Traveling is one of my desires, and I patiently wait to see yet more of God's creation and beauty for all of us. Without Jesus Christ I am weak; with Him I am strong. He is my all. Contact Information: Reverand Joan Bellrichard Message of The Cross Ministries P.O. Box 9992 Colorado Springs Colorado 80932-0992

From a childhood of abuse came loneliness, fears, and torments in my life. Then going through a nervous breakdown, an abusive marriage, and a desire no longer to live, one day miraculously it all began to change. Reading my testimony you too will come to realize that God not only protected me, but God Himself is now using my yesterdays for His Glory. God saved me to be here for each one of you. The spark of life that seemed to no longer be within me was still present, and burns more than ever brighter today. Never did I imagine after raising a family that God would so powerfully come into my life. It all began in 2003 when He led me and my husband to attend Bible College in Colorado. Then upon graduation we were ordained as ministers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. God had already let us know that we were to be founders of Message of The Cross Ministries, which today gives me more joy then I had ever hoped for in this life. Just as my earlier life began as a mighty disaster, this now new life in and through Jesus Christ has just the opposite effect and meaning! Traveling is one of my desires, and I patiently wait to see yet more of God's creation and beauty for all of us. Without Jesus Christ I am weak; with Him I am strong. He is my all.

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The Visual Cliff experiment is a test of depth perception and how it is developed. It involves a checkerboard pattern that lies flush under a Plexiglas surface for half of its length, but then slants some four feet, creating the illusion of a sheer drop beneath the solid surface. #2 The infant’s cry is pitched in such a way to get the attention of the adult brain. It is also the most effective way of distracting participants so that they can’t even perform the simplest of subtraction tasks. #3 Babies are hardwired to need their mothers’ attention and love, but they also come equipped with behaviors that make it hard for their mothers to ignore them. This is why, if your connection to your mother has been fraught, difficult, or even damaging, a very big part of you still wants and needs her love. #4 The Strange Situation is a series of staged encounters with the mother and child coming into the unfamiliar lab room. The mother would sit back as the child played and explored the room. Then a stranger would enter, speak to the mother, and approach the infant; while the baby was distracted, the mother would leave the room.

The Mother-Daughter Relationship Makeover combines a compelling mother and daughter memoir with self-help and a formula for readers to explore their own mother-daughter history, understand and ease their conflicts, and rediscover their appreciation and love. Bestselling author Leslie Glass and her daughter, award-winning documentarian Lindsey Glass, offer a brand-new kind of interactive self-help book that combines actionable information, compelling storytelling, and writing prompts that are guaranteed to bring awareness, understanding, and compassion to mothers and daughters everywhere. It is a book that promises to heal your relationship and keep it strong, offering a positive pathway to peace and serenity no matter how far apart you feel you are. Leslie and Lindsey have lived through their own traumas and devastating ups and downs in their relationship. They’ve turned their experiences into a successful platform for helping others and share them here in this book. They use their own tumultuous story, told from their respective points of view, to help mothers and daughters understand that even if you go off track, go to war, part ways for years, you can still find your way back to friendship, understanding, and love. For the first time, Leslie and Lindsey will share their secret sauce for healing, broken down into four steps: •Revealing Your Back Story •Exploring Your Emotional and Personality Styles •Understanding Your Conflicts and Triggers •Learning the Tools to Restore the Love