Unf Ck Your Life And Relationships

Unf*ck Your Life and Relationships combines Anita’s personal story and the culmination of twenty-five years of clinical experience with individuals, couples, and families. She demonstrates that building healthy relationships starts from the inside out and calls for a “back to basics” of love and life that have become lost in a culture driven by electronic communication and social media attachment. Experiencing conflict in relationships is an unavoidable fact of life. When our relationships are messed up, our lives feel messed up. Likewise, our hearts and minds hurt—the two are intricately linked. Drawing on over twenty-five years of clinical experience with individuals, couples, and families, psychotherapist Anita Astley will walk you through practical steps to unf*ck yourself from the inside out in order to establish healthy relationships. Her approach takes you back to the basics of love and life that have become lost in a culture consumed by electronic communication and social media attachment. Anita will help guide you through your journey of transformation by identifying various psychological dynamics that serve to do more harm than good to you and your relationships. In addition, she will provide tools to help you hone your communication skills through active listening and effective speaking as a means of working through conflict to arrive at solutions. These practices have helped countless patients and have proven to be effective for Anita personally. In this book, she shares her childhood journey from India to Germany (and then to Canada), reuniting with her father. However, his expectation for Anita to follow a culturally traditional path and consent to an arranged marriage destroyed her confidence and self-worth and left deep emotional scars. As she pursued higher education and individual psychotherapy, Anita found her voice through mentors who enabled her to break free, find her path to healing and inner strength, and eventually unlock the skills needed to help others. In these pages, Anita Astley now acts as your mentor and guide so you can do the same and learn to maintain inner emotional balance and form healthy, fulfilling relationships with those you love.

Boundaries are the ways we communicate our needs. They are what allow us to feel safe among strangers, in everyday interactions, and in our closest relationships. When we have healthy boundaries, we have a strong foundation in an uncertain world. And when someone crosses your boundaries, or you cross someone else's, the results range from unsettling to catastrophic. In this book, bestselling author Dr. Faith Harper offers a full understanding of issues of boundaries and consent, how we can communicate and listen more effectively, and how to survive and move on from situations where our boundaries are violated. Along the way, you'll learn when and how to effectively say "no" (and "yes"), troubleshoot conflict, recognize abuse, and respect your own and others' boundaries like a pro. You'll be amazed at how much these skills improve your relationships with friends, strangers, coworkers, and loved ones.

Our brains are doing our best to help us out, but they can be real assholes sometimes. Sometimes it seems like your own brain is out to get you—melting down in the middle of the grocery store, picking fights with your date, getting you addicted to something, or shutting down completely at the worst possible moments. You already told your brain firmly that it isn't good to do these things. But your brain has a mind of its own. That's where this book comes in. With humor, patience, and lots of swearing, Dr. Faith shows you the science behind what's going on in your skull and talks you through the process of retraining your brain to respond appropriately to the non-emergencies of everyday life. If you're working to deal with old traumas, or if you just want to have a more measured and chill response to situations you face all the time, this book can help you put the pieces of the puzzle together and get your life and brain back.Here's an excerpt from the book:Knowing what’s going on up in your brain is HUGE. So much of how we interact with the world around us is a completely normal response when we take into account our past experiences and how our brains work. • Freaking the fuck out • Avoiding important shit we need to take care of • Feeling pissed off all the time • Being a dick to people we care about • Putting shit in our bodies that we know isn’t good for us • Doing shit we know is dumb or pointlessNone of these things are fucking helpful. But they all make sense.Your brain has adapted to the circumstances in your life and started doing things to protect you, bless it. It’s not TRYING to fuck you over (even though it totally is, at times).As we navigate the world, nasty shit happens. The brain stores info about the nasty shit to try to avoid it in the future. Sometimes these responses are helpful. Sometimes the responses become a bigger problem than the actual problem was. It’s called a trauma reaction.And even if you aren’t dealing with a specific trauma? Adaptive coping strategies, bad habits, and funky behaviors all wire in similar ways. And research is showing that these issues are actually some of the easier ones to treat in therapy … if we address what’s really going on, rather than just the symptoms.

From the New York Times bestselling author of Unfu*k Yourself comes tough-love that explains what makes relationships work: you taking responsibility to fix yourself. “Love is patient, love is blind. . .” Until it's not. Then what? No matter how much advice we get or how much work we do on our “stuff,” nothing ever seems to make the difference. The truth of it is, you’re woefully ill-equipped for one of the most life-defining things you will ever take on—being in a committed relationship. Whether you’re currently in one, want to be in one, half in–half out, getting over one, married, single, separated, divorced, or just overwhelmed with the whole thing, let’s cut through the morass of relationship schtick and put you back in charge. No flowery BS, no woo-woo strategies, systems, or techniques, just real talk, for real people who want a real relationship in their life that actually works.

Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith walks you through friend break-ups. First off, figuring out if you can save the friendship (and if you want to), and giving that a try. Second off, all the ways people break up with friends, rated on a scale of relative healthfulness, with some scripts for having those hard conversations. Finally, tips for recovering from your friend break-up, whether you're the breaker-upper, or the break-upee. Sad to say that this is a useful skill set for everyone of every age.

Unf*ck Your Life is a powerful guide that offers a solution to the turmoil and uncertainty in today's world. Ever been trapped in a toxic relationship, stuck in a job you hate, or felt uncertain and anxious about the future? Inside you’ll discover how we all carry emotional, mental, and physical chains that keep us from living our best lives. While slavery is no longer permitted, most of us are still slaves. We are slaves to our emotions, relationships, work, attachments, addictions, beliefs, and possessions. This book invites you to create new beliefs, paths, and opportunities that can change the direction of your life. Ultimately, it's by becoming a master of your environment and yourself that you can achieve true freedom and take control of your life. Through practical exercises, inspiring stories, and insightful reflections, this book will show you how to untangle life's most difficult issues. From relationships and work to personal growth and well-being, this book is a must-read for anyone seeking a way to unf*ck their life and embrace a brighter future.

Explore your relationships and sexuality, with yourself and with others, with this new book by Dr. Faith, author of bestselling Unfuck Your Brain. Written particularly for people who are in intimate relationships, but also incredibly useful if you're single or dating and trying to unpack your past or plan for your future. With science and humor, Dr. Faith demystifies topics such as kink, consent, shame, and trauma recovery. Contains many exercises and questions to think, talk, or write about, on your own or with a partner. Read this book to learn vital life skills like listening to your body and your gut, setting boundaries, and communicating your needs. If you're looking to heal from past wounds, make better choices, or improve an existing relationship, this book is for you. Better sex and relationships are totally possible! You've got this.This book speaks to so many of the possible ways of being intimate with yourself and others. Whether you're queer, straight, trans, ace, demi, aro, are dealing with past abuse or societal bullshit, or have no freaking clue what's going on with you yet, Dr. Faith's got you covered.

"Read and decide how you'll handle the imminent or ongoing friend split in your life, or evaluate how you've handled them in the past and be prepared to do it better in the future. Pro tip: All this advice is also helpful for relationship break-ups and divorces, quitting your job, or moving on in general from entanglements that may be toxic or may simply not be working out"--Publisher's website