When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Caring for yourself and your relationship with your mom who has BPD. Growing up with a mom who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is difficult--but it's still possible to have a functioning adult relationship with her. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder provides you with crucial information for understanding the patterns behind her Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as the tools you need to start your own recovery process. Find ways to reconcile your complicated thoughts and feelings with straightforward and easy-to-use techniques. You'll also discover a number of sample dialogues that give you blueprints for safe and secure interactions in a variety of situations. When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder includes: You, your mother, and Borderline Personality Disorder--Learn why your mother behaves the way she does and how to maintain a relationship with her--without getting hurt. The help you need--Start healing with essential self-care strategies that will help you rebuild your self-esteem, cope with anxiety, protect your family, and more. Research-based tools--Get proven advice based on the most up-to-date approaches for managing a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. Get the help you need moving forward with the compassionate guidance of When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder.

Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.

Those raised by a BPD parent endured a volatile and painful childhood. This book offers readers step-by-step guidance to understanding and overcoming the lasting effects of being raised by a person with this disorder. Readers discover coping strategies for dealing with low self-esteem, lack of trust, guilt, and hypersensitivity.

This book was written for young kids who presently have to live with a mother who does not seem to understand them. It shows them various tips, tricks, and ways of handling various situations.It is also written for adults who grew up in homes where they suffered various forms of abuse from their mothers while growing up. This book will help them to release those pent-up tensed moments and safely begin to recover from the anxiety they may have suffered as a result of their upbringing. It helps the readers learn various ways of not accepting that they are to blame for the situation and provides guidance on how not to descend into a victims’ mentally so that they do not also unconsciously make their kids go through the same experience as they did.Children raised by mothers with Borderline Personality Disorder (BDP) miss out on the healthy, steady, and loving relationship children with regular moms have with their moms.While it is true that there are many reasons while a child may have an unhealthy relationship with her mother, one possible explanation could also be, you were living with a mother that had borderline personality disorder. Adults who grow up with BPD mothers have great difficulty sustaining stable relationships. It's hard, really hard to live with a mom with BPD, because this personality disorder is known for its rigid pattern of unhealthy and abnormal thought patterns and behaviors, and is characterized by chronic instability in mood, behavior, relationships, and self-image.They develop a wide range of emotional problems that make it difficult for them to overcome their dysfunctional upbringing.These children may struggle with low self-esteem, anger, or depression and find out that they have difficulty getting along with their mothers. If you are one of those kids and have been wondering what could have happened, what went wrong, and if you are to blame in all of these, then, this book is for you.This book shows how heartbreaking the experience of a child with borderline personality disorder can be. The instability, emotional volatility, self-injury, and suicide attempts can be very draining and devastating for the emotions of the child and leave them feeling lost, helpless, and alone. They find that they practically have to live their life walking cautiously, scheming to avoid what’s the next inevitable rage and never able to predict what will be the next trigger.This book will talk about all of that and help you recognize that you are not to blame for your mother’s behavior, it will aid you toward healing some of your wounds.

In this groundbreaking book, psychologist Daniel Lobel offers essential skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you understand your daughter’s disorder, define appropriate boundaries, put an end to daily emergencies, and rebuild the family’s structure from the ground up. If you have a daughter with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you may feel frustration, shame, and your family may be at the breaking point dealing with angry outbursts, threats, and constant emergencies. You may even feel guilty for not enjoying spending time with your child—but how can you when her behavior is abusive toward you and the rest of your family? You need solid skills you can use now to help your daughter and hold your family together. In this important guide, you’ll learn real solutions and strategies based in proven-effective DBT and CBT to help you weather the storm of BPD and restore a sense of normalcy and balance in your life. You’ll find an overview of BPD so you can better understand the driving forces behind your daughter’s difficult behavior. You’ll discover how you can help your daughter get the help she needs while also setting boundaries that foster respect and self-care for you and others in your family. And, most importantly, you’ll learn “emergency parenting techniques” to help you put a stop to abusive patterns and restore peace. If your daughter has BPD and your family is struggling to make it through each day, this book offers essential skills to help you cope and recover a sense of stability.

Have you been deeply hurt by your mother? Did the woman, who should have loved you, nourished you and protected you inflict traumas that still affect your life today? Are you struggling every day to repair the damage that she caused? If you were raised by a BPD parent, your childhood would more than likely have been an unstable and painful experience. Children raised by mothers with borderline personality disorder are at risk of developing the same kind of emotional problems. They may find themselves facing seemingly insurmountable obstacles in order to overcome their parent's dysfunctional attitudes, and it may be necessary to seek professional help to work on such feelings. If you have experienced these issues as a child, you may have low self-esteem or suffer from anger or depression. Recognising that these problems are not a choice, but the consequences of your mother's disorder, is a necessary first step towards healing your emotional wounds. Adult children of BDP parents are often afflicted with so much guilt and such a strong sense of profound obligation and shame that they feel obliged to keep secret all that has happened in the family, even when it is destroying their lives. These people can find it really difficult to share their experiences because mothers with BPD are usually very good at creating the perfect family image for outsiders to the family. I advise you to read this book if any of these symptoms sound familiar: Sudden unexplained anxiety followed by rapid falls into depression. Doubting yourself and your sanity. Mood swings. Endless and repetitive obsessive thinking about your mother. Constantly try to find explanations for what happened. Feelings of powerlessness and despair. A desire to self-isolate. Overwhelming feelings of loss and pain. Extreme attacks of anger. Insomnia or strange dreams. Many readers can recognize their mothers and themselves in this book Often the children of borderline mothers are terrified of their attitudes and remain paralyzed by failing to react, others find courage but find themselves without the right tools to face them. Looking for help from friends and acquaintances could not be the best solution, they will try to minimize or simply say that you are overdoing it. Don't take it out on them, they won't understand you because they haven't experienced certain dynamics in their lives. What you need to learn Understanding the psychological mechanisms of a borderline mother. The main styles of a borderline mother - identify the traits. The serious consequences in adulthood if you don't address these issues. Things you should never do with BPD sufferers/Learn to defend yourself emotionally against them. How to overcome the trauma and begin a healthy healing process. There are many other situations that will be listed within this book. Knowing the right information allows you to contain the damage and avoid unnecessary suffering The internal dynamics and long-term unresolved traumas can create irreversible damage to your sanity, threatening future emotional and mental stability, so it is important to take immediate action. If you are tired of carrying this weight every day and want to finally make a change in your life this book has been written especially for you. Heal the deep wounds of the child within you Scroll up and click Buy Now botton at the top of this page

Gentle counsel and realistic advice for families contending with one of today's most misunderstood forms of mental illness. For family members of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), home life is routinely unpredictable and frequently unbearable. Extreme mood swings, impulsive behaviors, unfair blaming and criticism, and suicidal tendencies--common conduct among those who suffer from the disorder--leave family members feeling confused, hurt, and helpless. In Stop Walking on Eggshells, Randi Kreger's pioneering first book which sold more than 340,000 copies, she and co-author Paul T. Mason outlined the fundamental differences in the way that people with BPD relate to the world. Now, with The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, Kreger takes readers to the next level by offering them five straightforward tools to organize their thinking, learn specific skills, and focus on what they need to do to get off the emotional rollercoaster: (1) Take care of yourself; (2) Uncover what keeps you feeling stuck; (3) Communicate to be heard; (4) Set limits with love; and (5) Reinforce the right behaviors. Together the steps provide a clear-cut system designed to help friends and family reduce stress, improve their relationship with their borderline loved one, improve their problem-solving skills and minimize conflict, and feel more self-assured about setting limits.

"A valuable, practical resource for parents and caregivers of children, from age five through adulthood, who exhibit signs of, or have been diagnosed with, borderline personality disorder (BPD)."—Booklist Based on the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells, this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD)—without sacrificing their family or themselves. If you have a child with BPD, you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder—including rages, self-harm, sexual acting out, substance abuse, suicidal behaviors, physical and emotional attacks, and more. Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don’t work with a borderline child. But you shouldn’t lose hope. The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work. With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child’s condition at home. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You’ll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs. Whether your child is 5 or 25, this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive.