Breaking Free Of The Co Dependency Trap

This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.

Challenging popular beliefs about codependency to trace the condition's origins in incomplete developmental tasks from the first year of life, a revised guide to understanding and healing codependency shares case stories of people who have successfully applied specific therapies to transform themselves and their relationships. Original.

Provides instructions for identifying and releasing dysfunctional and destructive relationship patterns in a self-directed method of twelve steps.

Do you know someone who... Has trouble being close to others? Has a strong need to be right — all the time? Acts self-centered and egotistical? Never asks for help? Has to look good all the time? Works long hours but never finishes? Expects perfection in self and others? Seldom appears vulnerable or weak? Has difficulty relaxing? If so, this person may suffer from counter-dependency, the little-known flip side of co-dependency. The Flight from Intimacy, by psychologists Janae and Barry Weinhold, reveals counter-dependency as the major barrier to creating intimate relationships. People with counter-dependent behaviors appear strong, secure, and successful on the outside, while on the inside they feel weak, fearful, insecure, and needy. They function well in the world of business but often struggle in intimate relationships. Being in a relationship with this kind of person can be extremely frustrating. The Flight from Intimacy shows readers how to recognize and cope with counter-dependent people. And if you recognize yourself in the description above, this book will help you learn how to change. It teaches readers how to use committed relationships to heal childhood wounds and provides proven ways to use conflicts as opportunities for creating intimate, partnership relationships.

Includes bibliographical references (p. 173-175) and index.

A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.

Dances with Dependency offers effective strategies to eliminate welfare dependency and help eradicate poverty among indigenous populations. Beginning with an impassioned and insightful portrait of today’s native communities, it connects the prevailing impoverishment and despair directly to a “dependency mindset” forged by welfare economics. To reframe this debilitating mindset, it advocates policy reform in conjunction with a return to native peoples’ ten-thousand-year tradition of self-reliance based on personal responsibility and cultural awareness. Author Calvin Helin, un-tethered to agendas of political correctness or partisan politics, describes the mounting crisis as an impending demographic tsunami threatening both the United States and Canada. In the United States, where government entitlement programs for diverse ethnic minorities coexist with an already huge national debt, he shows how prosperity is obviously at stake. This looming demographic tidal wave viewed constructively, however, can become an opportunity for reform—among not only indigenous peoples of North America but any impoverished population struggling with dependency in inner cities, developing nations, and post-totalitarian countries.

Imagine a powerful solution for saying "No" to your loved ones WITHOUT risking their affection... Do you need external validation just to function properly? Are you constantly putting out fires and fixing other people's problems while neglecting your own? Are your fears of abandonment so strong that you feel as if one of your limbs is being amputated when someone leaves you? If so, you're not alone. Many people have tried various methods to overcome their codependency with little to NO success, leaving them feeling hopeless. You wake up each day feeling like a shell of your former self, lost in a never-ending cycle of putting others' needs before your own. Saying no to helping others feels incredibly guilty, and the fear of losing their love often prevents you from putting yourself first. While it's healthy to be needed and valued by your loved ones, it can become a problem when it drives most of your decisions and behaviors... Especially if you’re only comfortable in relationships where you feel like the person can't live without you. Imagine a powerful solution to assertively say "no" to your loved ones WITHOUT losing their love - allowing you to stop being an emotional sponge and finally put yourself first! It’s called Codependent Cure – A revolutionary, scientifically-backed guide published by bestselling author Jean Harrison, for breaking the chains of codependency and developing emotional resilience. With the proven techniques and strategies outlined in this book, countless individuals have reclaimed their lives, moving away from the relentless pursuit of validation and the habit of people-pleasing. Here's just a small fraction of what you'll discover: ✓ The hidden link between codependency and addiction to break the enabling cycle ✓ The art of setting boundaries like a pro and handling resistance with finesse ✓ The #1 platform destroying your self-worth & why you must leave immediately ✓ How to shortcut your healing from codependency with 3 powerful routines ✓ A bulletproof system designed for maintaining your recovery after healing ✓ How to spot the subtle warning signs of a codependent relationship that often go unnoticed by many ✓ How to explore dating while shielding yourself from predators eager to trap you in toxic relationships ✓ And Much, Much More Exclusive Bonus: You'll also get access to a powerful 3-step toolkit, complete with practical worksheets and exercises, designed to rapidly dissolve codependent patterns and speed up your recovery journey. Codependent Cure helps you learn to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others while you learn how to honor your emotions, set boundaries, and finally speak your truth. Your happiness and needs are just as important as those of others, so now is the time to take care of them! If you're ready to liberate yourself from the grips of codependency and explore the happiness and fulfillment waiting for you... Then secure your copy of this book today!