Bully The Bullied And The Not So Innocent Bystander

The groundbreaking #1 national bestseller from Barbara Coloroso, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators. First published over a decade ago, The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander quickly became the definitive guide to bullying prevention and intervention, providing real solutions for a problem that affects young people all over the world. Now, in this thoroughly updated and expanded book, Coloroso helps you recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm; the bullied, who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the not-so-innocent bystanders—peers or siblings who either watch, participate in the bullying or look away, and adults who see bullying as “teasing,” not tormenting, and as “boys will be boys” or as “ girl drama,” not the predatory aggression that it is. In this book you will learn: What bullying is and what it isn’t The four ways and three means of bullying Technology resources and solutions to deal effectively with both online and offline bullying Differences and similarities between boys and girls who bully Differences between telling and tattling, reporting and ratting; teasing and taunting; flirting and sexual bullying How to read the subtle cues and clues that a young person is being bullied What not to do and what you can do to help the one who is bullied Seven steps to hold accountable and reform someone who bullies Four abilities that protect young people from succumbing to a bully Why zero-tolerance policies can equal zero thinking Why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies—and in our culture How young people can become a potent force as active witnesses—standing up for their peers, speaking out against cruelty and taking responsibility for what happens among themselves Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators and—most of all—young people the tools to break this cycle of violence.

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence. Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth, and her wide experience in the areas of conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, Barbara Coloroso explains: The three kinds of bullying, and the differences between boy and girl bullies Four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to bullying Seven steps to take if your child is a bully How to help the bullied child heal and how to effectively discipline the bully How to evaluate a school's antibullying policy And much more This compassionate and practical guide has become the groundbreaking reference on the subject of bullying.

An international bestseller, Barbara Coloroso’s groundbreaking and trusted guide on bullying—including cyberbullying—arms parents and teachers with real solutions for a problem that affects almost all school age kids. “An extremely helpful book that both parents and teachers can use to deal with bullying.”—Publishers Weekly First published over a decade ago, The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander quickly became the definitive guide to bullying prevention and intervention, providing real solutions for a problem that affects young people all over the world. Now, in this thoroughly updated and expanded book, Coloroso helps you recognize the characteristic triad of bullying: the bully who perpetrates the harm; the bullied, who is the target (and who may become a bully); and the not-so-innocent bystanders—peers or siblings who either watch, participate in the bullying or look away, and adults who see bullying as “teasing,” not tormenting, and as “boys will be boys” or as “ girl drama,” not the predatory aggression that it is. In this book you will learn: What bullying is and what it isn’t The four ways and three means of bullying Technology resources and solutions to deal effectively with both online and offline bullying Seven steps to hold accountable and reform someone who bullies Four abilities that protect young people from succumbing to a bully How young people can stand up, speak out, and take responsibility Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators and—most of all—young people the tools to break this cycle of violence.

A discussion and activity book on the subject of bullying. Illustrations are black and white line drawings which can be colored as the subject of bullying is discussed. Includes a dot to dot activity and a word search. Also includes resource list for parents

Based on the groundbreaking #1 national bestseller, The Bully, the Bullied and the Not-So-Innocent Bystander, this book from author Barbara Coloroso arms parents and teachers with the information they need to understand and combat online bullying—an increasingly prevalent among children and teens. You will learn: The four ways and three means of bullying Technology-based tools that kids use to target one another Ways that the Internet, social media, and devices are being used by bullies Terms and slang related to cyberbullying How to become more informed about your child’s online life Strategies and tools to stop cyber abuse Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators, and—most of all—young people the tools to break this cycle of violence.

From best-selling author Barbara Coloroso comes a timely and essential book about genocide. Through an examination of three clearly defined genocides — the Armenian and Rwandan genocides, and the European Holocaust — Coloroso deconstructs the causes and consequences, both to its immediate victims and to the fabric of the world at large, and proposes the conditions that must exist in order to eradicate this evil from the world. Coloroso is well known for her best-selling books that explore why children bully. In Extraordinary Evil she builds upon that research to explain why the impulse to bully is mirrored by the act of genocide. By linking the psychology of the bully to the motivation that leads a community to murder, Coloroso provides devastating and vital insight into why people kill their neighbors. Based on the author's 15 years of research and extensive travel, Extraordinary Evil is an urgently needed work in an age when acts of genocide seem to occur more frequently and are in the public's consciousness more than ever before.

We live in a world where children so often are given the message that the ends justify the means; where harmful, even violent behavior-in families, in communities, and around the world-goes unnoticed, unmitigated, and often unrepented; where children's ethical education can come from a T-shirt slogan or bumper sticker, an Internet site, or the evening news; where rigid moral absolutism or moral relativism has replaced true ethical thinking. In a world such as ours, Just Because It's Not Wrong Doesn't Make It Right is an essential tool.

The mother of a bullied first grader, popular blogger Carrie Goldman’s inspiring true story triggered an outpouring of support from online communities around the world. In Bullied, she gives us a guide to the crucial lessons and actionable guidance she’s learned about how to stop bullying before it starts. It is a book born from Goldman’s post about the ridicule her daughter suffered for bringing a Star Wars thermos to school—a story that went viral on Facebook and Twitter before exploding everywhere, from CNN.com and Yahoo.com to sites all around the world. Written in Goldman’s warm, engaging style, Bullied is an important and very necessary read for parents, educators, self-professed “Girl Geeks,” or anyone who has ever felt victimized by a bully, online or in person. Bullied has been recognized with Gold Awards at the 2013 National Parenting Publications Awards and the 2013 Mom's Choice Awards.