Defusing The High Conflict Divorce

It has been estimated that nearly twenty percent of the one million divorces each year in the U.S. involve high-conflict relationships. Angry, emotional disputes related to custody, parenting time, child support payments, visitation and more may go on for years. Who suffers? The children, mostly. Post-divorce conflict may be the most significant factor in adjustment (or maladjustment) for children of divorce.Defusing the High-Conflict Divorce offers a unique set of proven programs for quelling the hostility in high-conflict co-parenting couples, and "defusing" their prolonged, bitter and emotional struggles.

This book provides a comprehensive, in-depth analysis of the origin and the root causes of high-conflict divorce. Through rich case studies, the author points the way toward remediation and makes specific recommendations for the legal and mental health professions. Counselors, social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, lawyers, and judges who regularly contend with high-conflict divorce will benefit from drawing from this new approach in their practice.

From the Foreword, by Arnold Lazarus, PhD, ABPP: "I shudder when I think... when I, as a newly minted PhD in clinical psychology, was certified as competent and qualified... it is not farfetched to say I knew next to nothing..." "Newly minted" therapists aren't alone in making mistakes, of course; even seasoned professionals can benefit from discovering the 50+ most common errors therapists make, and how to avoid them. Newly revised and updated, this indispensable guide includes more case examples and adds seven ways "to fail" with child patients, too. How to Fail... details how to avoid errors such as not recognizing limitations, performing incomplete assessments, ignoring science, ruining the client relationship, setting improper boundaries, terminating improperly, therapist burnout, and more.

As an explanation of the therapist's role in guiding clients' emotional, physical and spiritual growth, this comprehensive manual offers the professional therapist the therapeutic procedures that facilitate inner-directed natural healing and recovery.

'Brief therapy' doesn't mean the same thing to all therapists. This thorough discussion of the factors that contribute to effectiveness in therapy carefully integrates key elements from diverse theoretical viewpoints.

"I'm done." "I quit." "I can't do this anymore." "I give up." It's exhausting trying to raise children with someone who hates you, so you're done. Done fighting. Done placating. Done brainstorming ways to make it better. Done taking the high road. Divorce is hard at the best of times, but when you divorce someone who may have a high conflict personality, it's a whole new ball game of hell. Daily emails that read like novels about how you are the world's worst parent; how you are destroying your children with your horrific controlling behaviors; sentence after sentence about how your children would be better off without you: these are indications that your divorce is high conflict. You need to be strong, disengage from the mud-slinging, and secure boundaries, and a clear and concise method for communication that keeps you safe and drama free. 'I'm Done: Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce' will give you everything you need to understand who you are co-parenting with, how to co-parent with them, and a little bit of your sanity back during this insane time.

Provides information for mental health practitioners on the basics of anger and anger disorder, and describes an anger management program that can be modified for use in private practice or institutional settings.

Empowering strategies for women negotiating a difficult divorce The only way to get over it is to get through it. Help is here. High-Conflict Divorce for Women has everything that divorce books for women should have—practical strategies, helpful scripts, and realistic advice on how to navigate and cope with a difficult divorce. From understanding the legalities of divorce, to developing a post-divorce budget, and more, this book goes beyond other divorce books for women to offer a wide range of strategies for getting through each stage of the process. Plus, you'll discover tips for emotional and physical self-care, as well as ways to mitigate stress. All divorce books for women should contain information about: Traversing the courts—Find information for handling divorce court, from what to expect to how to present yourself. Knowing what to say—Get scripts for tough situations—including tactful answers to questions from family and colleagues—that you may not find in other divorce books for women. Caring for your kids—From explaining divorce to your children to making a co-parenting plan, learn how to maintain healthy parenting skills during this trying time. Look no further for divorce books for women that help you cope with a difficult divorce—High-Conflict Divorce for Women has you covered.