Don T Take It Personally

Who hasn’t felt the sting of rejection? It doesn’t take much for your feelings to get hurt—a look or a tone of voice or certain words can set you ruminating for hours on what that person meant. An unreturned phone call or a disappointing setback can really throw you off your center. It’s all too easy to take disappointment and rejection personally. You can learn to handle these feelings and create positive options for yourself. Don’t Take It Personally! explores all forms of rejection, where it comes from, and how to overcome the fear of it. Most of all, you’ll learn some terrific tools for stepping back from those overwhelming feelings. You’ll be able to allow space to make choices about how you respond. —Understand the effect that anxiety, frustration, hurt, and anger have on your interactions with others. —De-personalize your responses and establish safe personal boundaries that protect you from getting hurt. —Practice making choices about the thoughts you think and the ways you respond to stressful situations. —Understand and overcome fear of rejection in personal and work relationships. Elayne Savage explores with remarkable sensitivity the myriad of rejection experiences we experience with friends, co-workers, lovers, and family. Because her original ideas have inspired readers around the world, Don’t Take It Personally! has been published in six languages.

"Ajahn Sumedho urges us to trust in awareness and find out for ourselves what it is to experience genuine liberation from mental anguish and suffering, just as the Buddha himself did two and a half thousand years ago. Mindfulness or awareness is knowing, isn't it? It is a direct knowing, immanent here and now. It is being fully present, attentive, to this present moment as is. But defining mindfulness tends to make it into something -- and then it is no longer mindfulness, is it? Mindfulness is not a thing; it is a recognition, an intuitive awareness. It is awareness without grasping. With this recognition, we have perspective on the conditions that we experience in the present -- our thoughts, identities, and the conditioning we have. Concentration, on the other hand, is usually on a form. We choose an object and then put our full attention onto it in contrast to mindfulness which is formless and immeasurable, and does not seek a form. That is why describing mindfulness or awareness leads to the wrong attitude. Terms like 'wake up', 'awakening' or 'pay attention' are not definitions; they are suggestions to trust in this moment, to be present, to be here and now. Ajahn Sumedho, an American Buddhist monk, practiced for ten years in Thailand with the well known monk, Ajahn Chah. He has since spent over thirty years in England and is the founder of the Cittaviveka Forest Monastery in West Sussex and the Amaravati Buddhist Monastery in Hertfordshire. His many books include Teachings of a Buddhist Monk."--Publisher's website.

This book will put an end to the overflow of body/mind/spirit books. After this book, there is no need to read anything else about how to find your true destiny or your inner truth/child/man/woman/guardian angel. Or how to fight for your rights, how to achieve success or how to make sure all your wishes are granted. Or how to win the game called life. How to take it? How to be? The answer is here. Don't take it, leave it. Don't take it personally. Don't take it at all. The fight is over, the search is over. No more loss or victory, no searching or finding. You're serene and fulfilled at last. Nothing can disturb or mislead you any more. Actually, there is nothing to discover, there is no lightness or enlightenment at all. You, by yourself, built this dark room around yourself. You are covered by yourself, you are sitting in yourself. You, by yourself, cannot see anything but yourself. This dark room is actually you and nothing more. Come out. Look around. Let the sunshine in. And then, in broad daylight, you can see that the darkness didn't really exist. The cover around you, yourself, was just a myth, just a story you were told by yourself and others. It was not real thing. It was just an imaginary, though useful, tool in society. There's nothing to do and there's no need to do anything anyway. If you leave your 'self' out, there's no one who can get hurt. If you're not there, no one can harm you, hurt you or insult you. That's how simple it is. The book includes quotes from Laozi, the Taoist sage, and some themes come from Buddhist scriptures, although these are not worded in the traditional way, to avoid unnecessary resistance from people who don't like any religion at all. It's not an ordinary self-help book. You will not find any demands or commandments, any rules or restrictions in this book. No tasks, no exercises, no to-do lists, nothing to compete or complete. How to be. The short answer is simple: Don't take anything personally. If anyone wants a longer answer, they should read the book.

Bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. • A New York Times bestseller for over 7 years • Over 5.2 million copies sold in the U.S. • Translated into 38 languages worldwide Don Miguel Ruiz’s book is a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom.” — Deepak Chopra, Author, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success “An inspiring book with many great lessons . . .” — Wayne Dyer, Author, Real Magic “In the tradition of Castaneda, Ruiz distills essential Toltec wisdom, expressing with clarity and impeccability what it means for men and women to live as peaceful warriors in the modern world.” — Dan Millman, Author, Way of the Peaceful Warrior

In The Circle of Fire (formerly published as Prayers: A Communion With Our Creator) Ruiz inspires us to enter into a new and loving relationship with ourselves, with our fellow humans, and with all of creation. Through a selection of beautiful essays, prayers, and guided meditations, Ruiz prepares our minds for a new way of seeing life, and opens our hearts to find our way back to our birthright: heaven on earth. The result is a life lived in joy, harmony, and contentment. In my teachings, "The Circle of Fire" ceremony celebrates the most important day of our lives: the day when we merge with the fire of our spirit, and return to our own divinity. This is the day when we recover the awareness of what we really are, and make the choice to live in communion with that force of creation we call "Life" or "God." From that day forward, we live with unconditional love in our hearts for ourselves, for life, for everything in creation. This book, first published in 2001 as "Prayers: A Communion with Our Creator," will remind you of what you really are. It has always been my favorite book, and now in honor of my favorite prayer, it has been appropriately renamed "The Circle of Fire." -- don Miguel Ruiz

"Don't Take It Personally examines the fundamental distinction between two contrasting visions of personhood - one featuring specific individuals characterized by their singularity and the other envisioning unspecified, effectively generic ones. Whereas the former characterizes our "personal" relationships with our friends, for instance, the latter underlies the more "impersonal" relationships between doctors and patients or store staff and customers. The distinction between those two visions of personhood is most compellingly captured by contrasting a company's decision to lay off ten percent of its employees and only later determine specifically who they would be with an a priori decision to fire those specific individuals, as well as by the U.S. Department of Justice's insistence that "No one is above the law"--

Don’t Take It Personally was written in hopes of having readers take a deeper look into areas where blessings may be hidden. In our lives there are occurrences that we may take for granted. The Lord sends us opportunities to grow and to be blessed. Blessings do not always come in packages that are obvious. They are often in new places we visit or new people we meet. Sometimes we walk away from someone or something that God was attempting to use to bring us closer to Him. It is imperative to look beyond our immediate comfort zones. We should also search for things that are within us or near us. We should keep our hearts open to the Lord and keep our hearts open to His promptings; He will never steer us wrongly. We understand that when God closes one door, He opens another. God also moves and removes. He prompts us to update our lives as He sees fit. God can use benign meetings with other people to give us information. There are never any accidents when we move from one place to the next. Everywhere He places us represents new challenges. The Bible was written by people who are similar to people of today. The Lord moved them from one place to another to fulfill His will.

Don't Take It PersonallyBy MohoroshBased Upon the Teachings of Rabbi Nachman of Breslov and of his student Rabbi Nosson of Breslov