Families And Forgiveness

Families and Forgiveness, Second Edition gives the therapist a working knowledge of the importance of love and trustworthiness, skills to adequately assess hurt and pain in a family, and different techniques and conceptualizations to help family members move to make progress in restoring function to broken identities and senses of safety. The authors consistently demonstrate that the work of forgiveness—in any form—is possible with every family member and improves the intergenerational health of the family. In this new edition, a reorganized structure efficiently brings the therapeutic focus on love and trustworthiness, and revised case studies and updated interventions provide mental health professionals with practical methods to treat troubled families.

Families and Forgiveness, Second Edition gives the therapist a working knowledge of the importance of love and trustworthiness, skills to adequately assess hurt and pain in a family, and different techniques and conceptualizations to help family members move to make progress in restoring function to broken identities and senses of safety. The authors consistently demonstrate that the work of forgiveness—in any form—is possible with every family member and improves the intergenerational health of the family. In this new edition, a reorganized structure efficiently brings the therapeutic focus on love and trustworthiness, and revised case studies and updated interventions provide mental health professionals with practical methods to treat troubled families.

Duck Dynasty stars Al and Lisa Robertson were desperate for their love to survive—and with God’s help, they realized the only answer to marital and family betrayal is all-consuming, life-altering, desperate forgiveness. In their new book, they share this message with anyone who wants to exchange broken relationships for healing. The Robertsons know what they’re talking about: They have lived through the pain of adultery and lack of communication in their marriage. And thanks to the healing they’ve experienced, they now help other couples find their own path to forgiveness. This former pastor of 22 years and his wife want you to arrive at a place where you, too, can give and receive forgiveness and find the beauty of reconciliation. By sharing true stories from friends and family, as well as biblical examples, Desperate Forgiveness provides the support you’ll need on the hard road to forgiveness. You’ll learn about the necessity and power of humility; the freedom found in letting go of bitterness; and the restoration and reclamation on the other side of desperation. Al and Lisa Robertson are living proof that choosing and living out forgiveness is worth the effort. Let Desperate Forgiveness show you the way to a changed life and revitalized marriage.

Explains how adult children can reframe their family's painful past as a way to free themselves from childhood hurt and trauma.

#1 NATIONAL BESTSELLER When the Second World War broke out, Ralph MacLean chose to escape his troubled life on the Magdalen Islands in eastern Canada and volunteer to serve his country overseas. Meanwhile, in Vancouver, Mitsue Sakamoto saw her family and her stable community torn apart after the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor. Like many young Canadian soldiers, Ralph was captured by the Japanese army. He would spend the war in prison camps, enduring pestilence, beatings and starvation, as well as a journey by hell ship to Japan to perform slave labour, while around him his friends and countrymen perished. Back in Canada, Mitsue and her family were expelled from their home by the government and forced to spend years eking out an existence in rural Alberta, working other people's land for a dollar a day. By the end of the war, Ralph emerged broken but a survivor. Mitsue, worn down by years of back-breaking labour, had to start all over again in Medicine Hat, Alberta. A generation later, at a high school dance, Ralph's daughter and Mitsue's son fell in love. Although the war toyed with Ralph's and Mitsue's lives and threatened to erase their humanity, these two brave individuals somehow surmounted enormous transgressions and learned to forgive. Without this forgiveness, their grandson Mark Sakamoto would never have come to be.

Unflinchingly honest yet deeply optimistic, the volume is based on a complex therapeutic process that Dr. Hargrave has used - quite successfully - with numerous clients who have suffered severe violations of love and trust within their intergenerational families. He conceptualizes the work of forgiveness as four "stations" on the journey toward this goal. These include Station One: Insight, which addresses the origins of family pain and how insight can be used to make initial inroads to trustworthiness by stopping and blocking the perpetuation of unjustified and harmful actions. Station Two: Understanding pertains to the origins of guilt and shame and how the client can rework his or her perspective to ultimately reduce pain. The tough and risky work of forgiveness is the subject of Station Three: Giving the Opportunity for Compensation. It is here that forgiving is considered as a process by which the victim gives the victimizer the opportunity to demonstrate love and trust in the present so that the family can be reworked. Station Four: The Overt Act of Forgiveness is a step-by-step process, whereby a confrontation between the victim and relational culprit can result in a restoration of love and trust. The author provides vivid case histories from his own practice that demonstrate how each of the four stations plays out in a therapeutic situation. Practitioners will also benefit greatly from a discussion of the therapeutic issues facing the therapist who ishelping an individual or family work through painful violations. Dr. Hargrave addresses the goals, pace, and assessment of forgiveness - ever vigilant to maintain the client's integrity and protection - as well as the role the therapist should play in each station.

Christians are supposed to forgive others as we've been forgiven. But hearing the call to forgive is different from knowing how to practice forgiveness at home and in the world. Forgiveness is about more than the isolated acts and words of individuals. To forgive and be forgiven, we need communal practices and disciplines for a way of life that makes for peace. Greg Jones and Célestin Musekura describe how churches and communities can cultivate the habits that make forgiveness possible on a daily basis. Following the Rwandan genocide, Musekura lost his father and other family members to revenge killings. But then he heard God tell him to forgive the killers. The healing power of forgiveness in his own life inspired him to work for forgiveness and reconciliation across Africa. Jones, author of Embodying Forgiveness, interacts with Musekura's story to show how people can practice forgiveness not only in dramatic situations like genocide but also in everyday circumstances of marriage, family and congregational life. Together they demonstrate that forgiving and being forgiven are mutually reciprocating practices that lead to transformation and healing.

As CEO of the National Center for Fathering, Carey Casey uses his experience and stories—and his engaging, personable tone—to inspire champions-to-be in fathering. Championship Fathering will help fathers raise healthy, well-adjusted, confident kids—mentally, physically, and spiritually. It will help fathers use the principles of championship fathering: Loving, Coaching and Modeling. Men will appreciate Carey Casey’s experiences in sports. He is currently chaplain for the Kansas City Chiefs. The book also includes a foreword by Tony Dungy. A 3-minute daily radio feature hosted by Carey Casey, Today’s Father, is heard on over 600 stations nationwide.