Hope After Betrayal

Meg is a lantern guiding women through the twists and turns along this pain-filled path. --Lynn Marie Cherry, speaker and author of Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal Meg Wilson watched her world fall apart when her husband confessed to years of sexual addiction. She has intimate knowledge of the devastation that follows--and she has come through the other side. In her groundbreaking Hope After Betrayal, Meg provides reassuring counsel, compassionate insight, and wise direction. By sharing her story, talking to other women who've been in a similar situation, and turning to Scripture, Wilson has helped countless readers through the steps to recovery--and shows how you can follow that same path out of the darkness. This newly revised and expanded edition includes new lessons Meg has learned over the last decade. A compelling final chapter by Meg's husband sheds further light on the difficult road to healing from sexual addiction, and a thoughtful new appendix addresses the effect sexual addiction has on children in the home. Hope After Betrayal is a strong and sure lifeline that thousands of women will reach for in a drowning moment. Meg offers careful, clear direction and encouragement in each chapter while unveiling the truth about sexual addiction...This valuable tool should be required reading for every wife and every mother of sons." --Robin Jones Gunn, best-selling author of the Sisterchicks Series

Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

For any woman dealing with the fallout of infidelity, this sensitive and practical guide offers proven tools to help you make wise and empowering decisions as you deal with your husband’s sexual betrayal. If you have been devastated by your husband's sexual betrayal--whether an isolated incident or a long-term pattern of addiction--you don't have to live as a victim. If you choose to stay in your marriage, you have options other than punishing, tolerating, or ignoring your spouse; in fact, extraordinary growth awaits a woman willing to deal with the pain of her husband's struggles with sexual purity. Even if your spouse will not participate in a program for healing, you can change your own life in powerful and permanent ways. Shattered Vows is inspired by Debra Laaser's own journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women as a licensed marriage and family therapist, and her healed marriage after her husband's infidelity. In this book, she gives you the emotional tools to develop greater intimacy in your life, spiritual tools to transform your suffering, and meaningful answers to the questions that arise amid the complex fallout of broken vows: What am I supposed to do now? Why should I get help when this is his problem? How could this have happened? Where can I hide my heart? When will I stop feeling so out of control? What do you mean, "do I want to get well?" How can I ever trust him again? Is forgiving him really possible? How can we rebuild our relationship? The pain endured from sexual betrayal can break your heart, but it does not need to break your life.

Moving forward wasn't a matter of trusting Joe. I had to learn to trust God. A single text message on her husband's phone shattered her world. Faced with the truth of his betrayal, Hilarie is tormented by anger and debilitating fear. The shame and confusion push her into isolation. Can she forgive the unforgiveable? Will she ever trust her husband again? Award-winning We Survived Infidelity, a true story, offers a rare perspective on a husband's battle with sexual brokenness, and a wife's struggle to grasp the truth. A nonbeliever, Hilarie is surprised when she hears God in the depths of her anguish. Slowly, she is awakened to a new hope, remarkable insights, and inexplicable love for the man who upended her world. Ride the emotional roller coaster through a past riddled with lies. Reflect on lessons that may bring about change in your own life. And most importantly.... Witness the transforming power of God's love in the lives of two people who refused to give up on each other. "This courageous work will be both comfort and challenge for any woman who feels alone in the devastating reality of infidelity." - Susan Allen, author and cofounder of Avenue Ministries "We Survived Infidelity, is a phenomenal love story that reveals how God can transform even the most impossible situation into a thriving, living example of His grace." - Jessica Brodie, South Carolina United Methodist Advocate "Hilarie's transparency is heart wrenchingly accurate..."-Meg Wilson, author and CEO of Hope After Betrayal Ministries *** Don't miss out on this journey of discovery. Purchase We Survived Infidelity today.

A go-to guide on how to confront, heal from, and ultimately thrive after the devastation of betrayal by a partner's compulsive sexual or other addictive behavior The first book specifically for partners affected by addictive behavior that addresses, in detail, how to identify, create, and maintain boundaries as a vital component of self-care and an indispensable tool for healing and growth. Through working the 5-Step Boundary Solution partners will gain clarity; reduce the chaos inherent in relationships impacted by sex addiction; feel more empowered and in control of their lives; discover whether or not their relationship with the addict is salvageable. Vicki Tidwell Palmer is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP) in private practice in Houston, Texas. She is the author of the blog for partners Survival Strategies for Partners of Sex Addicts.

"When Brian told me of his affair, my whole world was shattered. Since the affair, and since the difficult recovery period, I have excelled in amazing ways in every area of my life. I look and feel better than I did when I was in my twenties. I have more energy, more zeal and more enthusiasm for life. Since I have gotten over my insecurities, I experience far better relationships with my husband, children and others. I also have more fun. No matter what tragedies happen in our lives, we always have a choice, not a choice over what will happen to us, but a choice over how we will react to it. Will we become bitter or better? I chose to become better, and now my greatest tragedy has also become my greatest personal victory." – Anne Bercht "Would I want to go back to our marriage before the affair? Not a chance! Would I have liked to have gotten to this point some other way? Absolutely! Would I recommend an affair to others so they can reach a greater love and better marriage? Absolutely not! If you have experienced an affair, is rebuilding your marriage worth it? You bet it is! As long as you love each other and are willing to do the work." – Brian Bercht

Resurrect beauty from the ashes of betrayal Wife and mother Cindy Beall’s world was shattered when her beloved husband of nine years confessed his pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the stunning news that another woman was pregnant with his child. What could have been the end of a marriage instead became a testament to God’s miraculous ability to restore broken hearts and damaged bonds. With the wisdom and healing she’s gained in the twenty years that have passed since her husband’s devastating revelation, Cindy shares her own experience as well as those of couples she’s counselled. Drawing from her intimate knowledge of human pain and God’s power, Cindy shows how you can… seek support, counseling, and prayer after deception has surfaced rebuild trust that’s been eroded by infidelity, addiction, or other transgressions help your family heal from grief and reconcile with any long-term consequences rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises Cindy’s remarkable story, compassion, and grasp of God’s Word will help you trust God with your heartache as you seek His hope and redemption.

When Your Life Has Been Turned Upside Down Filled with profound wisdom and clear, healing guidance, Surviving Betrayal is the essential companion for any woman whose life has been shattered by infidelity. Author Alice May, who knows firsthand the devastating blow of spousal betrayal, gently leads women through the painful feelings of denial, desperation, and spiritual depletion that accompany infidelity. She shares her experience and strength and that of other women on how to find healthy outlets for rage, survive the inevitable rough spots, regain trust in others, and allow truth to heal the pain. She helps women empower themselves to live their lives with grace, dignity, and calm.