It Shouldn T Be This Way

Every life-changing experience, be it the loss of a function, a job or a friendship, or the death of a loved one, can be excruciating. Illness can forever alter our life and our abilities. And what makes it even more challenging is that many other people might fail to understand how challenging our adjustment to "normalcy" might be. Because there is no "normal" in these experiences. How can there be? When people hear the word acceptance, they might assume that it means being OK with what happened in the past or with how things currently are. In fact, there is a difference between acceptance and "feeling good" about what happened - acceptance means allowing yourself to feel whatever emotions naturally come up in response to what you are going through. It means acknowledging the reality of the pain, even though in an ideal world, it shouldn't be that way. This therapeutic and comforting self-help guide will help you: · Give yourself the permission to grieve or process events in the way that makes sense to you · To fully experience and accept your feelings of anger, grief, frustration or anxiety · To own your truth, even if it makes others uncomfortable This essential book will teach you to understand and be able to accept the difficult moments and circumstances in your life and make room for how you feel about them. And with this kind of an acceptance, there can be healing.

A wrenching, firsthand account of how the longterm care system can defeat even the best prepared of us - with the lessons they learned to help others dealing with it, too.

You Can't Talk to Me That Way!: Stopping Toxic Language in the Workplace stands up to verbally abusive bosses, co-workers, and others and says, "Enough!" It shows readers exactly what to say and do to end the humiliation and torment. Real injury-deep wounds and lasting pain-occurs as a result of verbal insults, putdowns, and ridicule in the workplace. This book is for anyone who has become discouraged, withdrawn and isolated at work due to verbal attacks-or, just as often, has been provoked into shouting matches and verbal confrontations with his or her attacker. Toxic language in the workplace causes people to withhold their best effort, transfer to a different division, or quit outright. Productivity and team spirit wither under a cloud of language meant to humiliate, hurt, and demean. To all those who spew such language at their co-workers, subordinates, and bosses, this book insists "You Can't Talk to Me That Way!" You Can't Talk to Me That Way!: Stopping Toxic Language in the Workplace: Presents a set of personal strategies for ending verbal assault and recovering from its effects Investigates the motives and methods of verbal attackers: who they are, how they operate, and why they torture others by verbal assaults Examines the psychology and circumstances of those targeted for verbal assault Suggests specific, practical steps companies can take to become aware of destructive environments and act quickly and legally to combat them Makes readers aware of their legal options if toxic language at work is damaging their reputations, career progress, and/or physical or psychological well-being Offers a vision of the compatible, decent workplace where employees can do their best work without fear of demeaning verbal assaults from work associates at any level

New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst unveils her heart amid shattering circumstances and shows readers how to live assured when life doesn't turn out like they expected. What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, His lack of intervention hurtful, and His promises doubtful? Life often looks so very different than we hoped or expected. Some events may simply catch us off guard for a moment, but others shatter us completely. We feel disappointed and disillusioned, and we quietly start to wonder about the reality of God’s goodness. Lysa TerKeurst understands this deeply. But she's also discovered that our disappointments can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God. In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa invites us into her own journey of faith and, with grit, vulnerability, and honest humor, helps us to: Stop being pulled into the anxiety of disappointment by discovering how to better process unmet expectations and other painful situations. Train ourselves to recognize the three strategies of the enemy so we can stand strong and persevere through unsettling relationships and uncertain outcomes. Discover the secret of being steadfast and not panicking when God actually does give us more than we can handle. Shift our suspicion that God is cruel or unfair to the biblical assurance that God is protecting and preparing us. Know how to encourage a friend and help her navigate hard realities with real help from God's truth.

Dr. Alison Cook uncovers the conflicting thoughts and emotions that keep us stuck and teaches us how to name, tame, and transform them into clear solutions that help us move forward in confidence. We all want to live godly lives and navigate through the issues that arise with confidence, but so often we find ourselves wrestling with conflicting thoughts and feelings. I want to be a good daughter, but I can't trust my parent. I should pray more, but I'm frustrated with God. Instead of naming these thoughts and working through them, we try to force ourselves to act based on what we've been told. But this inevitably ends with us feeling stuck, trapped between the people we think we should be and the way we really feel. What if this sidelining of our own thoughts and feelings is what's keeping us stuck? Building on psychological and spiritual insight, Dr. Alison Cook guides us through a practical strategy for acknowledging the tension and seeing the fuller truth. She shows us how to . . . uncover the mixed emotions that keep us confused; distinguish fact from fiction in our relationships; make decisions that account for the entirety of a situation; and start getting honest with ourselves, God, and other people. As we learn to take a step back from our mixed emotions and see the fuller picture of the challenges we face, we stop feeling paralyzed and start seeing our way through the haze, moving forward with clarity and confidence.

The ultimate myth-busting collection of quirky and curious facts about your body and health In 2009, Drs. Aaron E. Carroll and Rachel C. Vreeman explored a wide range of myths and misconceptions about our bodies and health in the media sensation, Don't Swallow Your Gum!, featured on The Dr. Oz Show, CNN, and in The New York Times, USA Today, and more. Now, they're delving into a whole new collection of myths based on the latest scientific research, including: • Eggs give you high cholesterol. • You should stretch before you exercise. • Kids in day care catch more colds. • Sit-ups or crunches will flatten your stomach. • A glass of warm milk will put you to sleep. With a perfect balance of authoritative research and breezy humor, Don't Cross Your Eyes . . . They'll Get Stuck That Way! exposes the truth behind all of the things you thought you knew about your health, your well-being, and how the body works.

Can't Find My Way Home is a history of illicit drug use in America in the second half of the twentieth century and a personal journey through the drug experience. It's the remarkable story of how America got high, the epic tale of how the American Century transformed into the Great Stoned Age. Martin Torgoff begins with the avant-garde worlds of bebop jazz and the emerging Beat writers, who embraced the consciousness-altering properties of marijuana and other underground drugs. These musicians and writers midwifed the age of marijuana in the 1960s even as Timothy Leary and Richard Alpert (later Ram Dass) discovered the power of LSD, ushering in the psychedelic era. While President John Kennedy proclaimed a New Frontier and NASA journeyed to the moon, millions of young Americans began discovering their own new frontiers on a voyage to inner space. What had been the province of a fringe avant-garde only a decade earlier became a mass movement that affected and altered mainstream America. And so America sped through the century, dropping acid and eating magic mushrooms at home, shooting heroin and ingesting amphetamines in Vietnam, snorting cocaine in the disco era, smoking crack cocaine in the devastated inner cities of the 1980s, discovering MDMA (Ecstasy) in the rave culture of the 1990s. Can't Find My Way Home tells this extraordinary story by weaving together first-person accounts and historical background into a narrative vast in scope yet rich in intimate detail. Among those who describe their experiments with consciousness are Allen Ginsberg, Timothy Leary, Robert Stone, Wavy Gravy, Grace Slick, Oliver Stone, Peter Coyote, David Crosby, and many others from Haight Ashbury to Studio 54 to housing projects and rave warehouses. But Can't Find My Way Home does not neglect the recovery movement, the war on drugs, and the ongoing debate over drug policy. And even as Martin Torgoff tells the story of his own addiction and recovery, he neither romanticizes nor demonizes drugs. If he finds them less dangerous than the moral crusaders say they are, he also finds them less benign than advocates insist. Illegal drugs changed the cultural landscape of America, and they continue to shape our country, with enormous consequences. This ambitious, fascinating book is the story of how that happened.

Chock-full of practical advice for teen and college-age readers on everything, including: * Nailing that first big job interview * Avoiding dangerous relationship mistakes * Mastering the art of managing your finances * Circumventing the typical pitfalls of adjusting to the adult world * Making friends and forging career alliances * Choosing the right mentors This valuable guidebook synthesizes a life's worth of wisdom into one engaging volume. The author, a self-made multimillionaire who did learn the hard way, offers what he wishes someone would have given him when he was starting out—a no-nonsense blueprint for personal and professional success. Written with self-deprecating humor and grace, this book is never preachy and features irresistible self-discovery quizzes that guide young readers to deeper self-understanding.