Mourning Mitzvah

An innovative integration of Jewish tradition and modern professional resources gives spiritual insight and healing wisdom to those who are mourning a death, to those who would help them, and to those who face a loss of any kind. This revised edition features a new introduction, new writing exercises, and resource lists.

Fully revised with a new author's preface, epilogue, and over a dozen new guided exercises, Anne Brener brings us an innovative integration of Jewish tradition and modern professional resources in this 25th anniversary edition of a modern classic. Mourning & Mitzvah gives spiritual insight and healing wisdom to those who mourn a death, to those who would help them, and to those who face a loss of any kind Mourning & Mitzvah teaches you the power and strength available to you in the fully experienced mourning process. When the temple stood in the ancient city of Jerusalem, mourners walked through the gates and into the courtyard along a specifically designated mourner’s path. As they walked, they came face to face with all the other members of the community, who greeted them with the ancestor of the blessing, “May God comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.” In this way, the community embraced those suffering bereavement, yet allowed for unique experiences of grief.

If your marriage must come to an end, do it the right way--with wisdom, practicality and understanding. What does Judaism tell you about divorce? What guidance, strength and insight can Judaism provide? In this first-of-its-kind handbook, Perry Netter--divorcé, father, congregational rabbi and pastoral counselor--shows how wholeness can be found in the midst of separation and divorce. With a title drawn from the words of the eleventh-century biblical commentator known as Rashi, Divorce Is a Mitzvah provides practical wisdom, information and strength from a Jewish perspective for those experiencing the challenging life-transition of divorce. Drawing on wisdom from centuries of biblical and rabbinic teachings, as well as modern psychological research, Netter offers suggestions for transitioning through the stages of separation and building a new life. This indispensable guide for people in crisis--and the family members, friends and counselors who interact with them--shows us how to transform a traumatic time of life into one of growth, right behavior and greater spiritual understanding.

While it follows the Jewish mourning process and tradition, this book is not just for Jews, but for all people who would gain strength to heal and insight from the Bible and teachings of Jewish tradition. "It is the best book on the subject that I have ever seen".--Rabbi Levi Meier, Ph.D. Over 60 guided meditations.

How to manage the process with grace, joy and good sense. A practical guide that gives parents and teens the "how-to" information they need to navigate the bar/bat mitzvah process and grow as a family through this experience. For the first time in one book, everyone directly involved offers practical insights into how the process can be made easier and more enjoyable for all. Rabbis, cantors and Jewish educators from the Reform, Conservative and Reconstructionist movements, parents, and even teens speak from their own experience. - What's it all about? - Preparation for Parent and Child - Tutoring, stress, expectations, enjoyment, planning for children with special needs - Negotiating the ceremony and celebration - Designing a creative service, heightening the spiritual exercise, special issues related to divorced and interfaith families, planning a party that neither breaks the bank nor detracts from the inherent spirituality of the event.

This comprehensive guide to Jewish observance throughout the life cycle is the best introduction to Reform Jewish practice available.

Wisdom, solace and inspiration from Jewish tradition to bring you hope and healing after loss. "Mourning can open doors you may not have imagined before your life was shaken by loss. This book provides keys to those doors and a way into the rooms beyond them. Whether you stand at grief's threshold or give counsel to someone who does, this book can offer guidance.... With words of wisdom, ranging from comforting to provocative, each author stands at the entrance to one of mourning’s doors, extending a hand to offer the key you will need, inviting you into one of these deep conversations." ―from the Preface by Rabbi Anne Brener, LCSW Beloved and respected spiritual leaders from across the Jewish denominational spectrum share insights from their experience, Jewish tradition and their personal encounters with grief and healing. This wide range of perspectives, offered with grace and compassion, will be a treasured resource in your time of grief. Whether mourning a recent loss or experiencing pain from old scars, you will be encouraged and challenged to be fully, vulnerably present to your emotions; forgive your own shortcomings and those of others; and remain open to love despite pain and uncertainty. Contributors: Rabbi Bradley Shavit Artson, DHL • Rabbi Anne Brener, LCSW • Dr. Norman J. Cohen • Rabbi Mike Comins • Rabbi David A. Cooper • Rabbi Rachel Cowan • Rabbi Edward Feinstein • Rabbi Nancy Flam • Rabbi Lori Forman-Jacobi • Rabbi Dayle A. Friedman, MSW, MA, BCC • Debbie Friedman • Rabbi Nancy Fuchs-Kreimer, PhD • Nan Fink Gefen, PhD • Rabbi Neil Gillman, PhD • Rabbi Edwin Goldberg, DHL • Rabbi Arthur Green, PhD • Dr. David Hartman • Rabbi Lawrence A. Hoffman, PhD • Rabbi Margaret Holub • Rabbi Karyn D. Kedar • Rabbi Lawrence Kushner • Rabbi Maurice Lamm • Rabbi Naomi Levy • Rabbi David Lyon • Rabbi Joseph B. Meszler • Rabbi James L. Mirel • Rabbi Kerry M. Olitzky • Rabbi Daniel F. Polish, PhD • Rabbi Sandy Eisenberg Sasso • Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis • Rabbi Dannel I. Schwartz • Rabbi Elie Kaplan Spitz • Rabbi Rami Shapiro • Rachel Josefowitz Siegel • Rabbi Shira Stern, DMin, BCC • Rabbi Nancy Wechsler-Azen • Karen Bonnell Werth • Rabbi Nancy H. Wiener, DMin • Dr. Ron Wolfson • Rabbi Sheldon Zimmerman For use by individuals as well as in groups or counseling settings.

This exceptional guide for learning and teaching about mitzvot offers overviews of 41 mitzvot in six areas: holidays rituals word and thought tzedakah gemilut chasadim and ahavah.