Negotiating With Your Ex

Your divorce usually isn't the end of your dealings with your former spouse. Personal, financial and legal issues may linger for many years after the divorce is granted. Brad McRae provides a system to minimize conflict and maximize impact in your dealings with your former partner to create a win-win situation.

For over twenty-five years, author Mary Greenwood has worked in careers that required expert negotiation. After becoming a professional union negotiator, she began to notice a specific set of rules people use to settle disputes. Greenwood compiles many of these rules in How to Negotiate Like a Pro: 41 Rules for Resolving Disputes, an easy-to-understand guide to negotiating any type of situation. Among these rules you will find the following: * Focus on the goal and resist being distracted by emotions * Request ground rules * Avoid negotiating against yourself * Do your research * Know when to walk away Greenwood lists each rule and subsequently offers a concise explanation on how and when to use it in your negotiations. She explains the emotional frame of mind you need for negotiations and reveals the preparations, strategies, and tactics required to close the deal. Telephone and on-line negotiations are also discussed. Whether you're involved in a professional dispute with another business associate, your boss, or even an online seller, How to Negotiate Like a Pro will put you ahead of the game!

Your family lawyer in a book. Whether you are married or living together – with children or without, if you are thinking about or are in the process of splitting up, this book is for you. When a relationship breaks down it’s hugely stressful and emotional – and often very confusing. Who gets to keep what? Will I ever see my kids? What needs to happen and when? What if things get nasty? This all-encompassing book, by family lawyer Laura Naser with years of experience helping couples reach the best solution possible, is here to bring calm and clarity, whatever the situation. She will guide you through the entire process from making sure this is what you really want and knowing what’s at stake, through to detailing all your options (whether you are married or not), what to do and in what order, and with a specific focus on co-parenting, managing money, social media, effective communication and how to resolve tricky issues that come up along the way. See this book as your trusted companion and guide - everything you need to know to get through this and thrive is right here.

"Negotiating is a face-to-face human drama that can be as genteel as croquet or as brutal as a prizefight," observes Victor Gotbaum. He should know -- no one has mastered this drama better than Gotbaum himself, who for more than twenty years headed the largest municipal employees' union in the country, earning a reputation as a tough, skilled negotiator who gets results. In Negotiating in the Real World, he draws on his experience to show how readers can also get results by sharpening their negotiating skills in every situation -- from getting a raise to buying a house or getting a divorce. All of us negotiate every day, sometimes in ways we don't even think of as negotiating. Resolving a problem with a coworker, discussing your child's allowance, or reaching agreement with your spouse on how much television your children should be watching are all examples of negotiations. And all negotiations, large and small, business or personal, follow the same principles. In clear and candid terms, Victor Gotbaum explains what those principles are: evaluating your own negotiating ability; measuring the ability and interests of your adversary; understanding the interests of those you represent; and being aware of how outside factors influence your negotiations. In Negotiating in the Real World, Gotbaum cites examples of how awareness or ignorance of these principles determined the outcome of a negotiation. Drawing on decades of expertise, he discusses how to keep the momentum going in negotiations, how to recognize when emotion becomes a stumbling block, and when to bring in a third party (using the 1994 Major League Baseball strike as one example). He explains the different types of mediators and arbitrators, and why you should avoid some of them except as an absolute last resort. Illustrated with numerous anecdotes and examples from real-life situations, and written with the frank, hard-hitting style for which Gotbaum is renowned, Negotiating in the Real World is an invaluable and practical guide for both novice and experienced negotiators on how to walk away from the bargaining table a winner.

This book is for men struggling with hard-to-deal with exes that do not have normal psychology; pure and simple. I wrote this book to chronicle my nasty, legal dynastic, divorce from my miserable narcissistic personality disorder (AKA Bitchface) ex-wife. I wrote this from 2008 to 2013 as a cathartic exercise but also to learn from what I experienced. Did I get sued for everything I owned? Yes I did. Did I have a nasty lawsuit proceeding? Yes I did. Were the kids dragged through the mud? Yes they were. Did I lose to a woman, who has all the advantages in the legal system? No, I won. I won. I was able to use my knowledge of her mindset to exploit her weaknesses and end the long drawn-out court battle that my ex-wife wanted, our lawyers wanted, and the courts were indifferent about. I did it by using my science background to understand what I was dealing with, to give her a metaphorical bloody nose, and to make her come to terms and win. In the words of my lawyer, she got "reamed". I kept the house. I have 50% custody of my kids. I have control over their future. I did it not just by using a good lawyer, but by understanding my exe's mentality and exploiting it. To win you need a good lawyer but you really need to defeat the mentality of your ex. That is what stops the suffering. As you have found out already, the courts are powerless unless illegality is going on, so your kids suffer if you don't find a way to stop it. I wasn't going to publish this book until my kids were older. Then, today, I was at lunch with my buddy and I learned of his brother's peril with an ongoing divorce struggle where he doesn't have a home, doesn't have a future. He also said that he had a friend near suicidal over the treatment of his ex. This was too much! So I thought to myself, I have a way to stop this. I am sitting on this because my kids are still in the picture and I don't want to cause a problem with my ex. But if someone dies because he can't handle the pressure and all I needed to do was share my experience, then that would be bad karma for me. I told my friend my story and he begged me to give me this book. So here it is, unfinished and without a sexy cover. When you read what's inside, you will understand that's not valuable. So I am publishing this now, without even a good cover, to help men struggling against women in a rigged legal system. If you are struggling in unfair terms and this personality sounds familiar, then read this book. If you know someone that could use this then for his sake please recommend this book before he does something rash. I was going to hold off on publishing my book until my kids were older and out of the house. But I can't have someone's demise on my mind if I could have helped. That's bad karma! I explain in this book how they think and why. I used that knowledge to end it earlier and win. Not win in the conquering sense, but win in ending a conflict before it raged for 10 years sense. Knowledge is power, give your desperate friend some power and read this book or give it to him. It will save on legal fees for you or him and maybe end everyone's suffering early.

If you are divorced, or are contemplating divorce, you’ve probably heard the diatribe: Divorce is messy. Divorce is a tragedy. Divorce will scar your children for life. Befriending Your Ex challenges many of these destructive myths about divorce, and sets out to change the way we think about the process of divorce and its ultimate outcome. While divorce certainly can have negative effects upon children, when they occur, these effects are likely to result from a hostile and combative relationship between ex-spouses. This uplifting book reminds the reader that all divorces need not follow this unhappy script, and that ex-spouses can collaboratively co-parent and be a source of support, not only to their children, but to one another as well. Author Judy Rabinor’s ability to write as both a divorcee and a psychologist gives her a unique perspective on the subject, and in the book she artfully and thoughtfully combines research, clinical practice, and the everyday reality faced by a divorced parent. As a guide for parents, this book is filled with practical exercises, suggestions and strategies for coping with anger, grief, and loss, as well as the myriad of day to day issues involved in co-parenting after divorce. Story after story—including Judy’s own story—reminds the reader that once the emotional tsunami of divorce settles back down, exes can be connected and supportive to one another as they share a major joy: loving and raising children and grandchildren, enjoying the family they have created, and creating a new family unit to evolve in the wake of divorce.

The definitive career guide for grad students, adjuncts, post-docs and anyone else eager to get tenure or turn their Ph.D. into their ideal job Each year tens of thousands of students will, after years of hard work and enormous amounts of money, earn their Ph.D. And each year only a small percentage of them will land a job that justifies and rewards their investment. For every comfortably tenured professor or well-paid former academic, there are countless underpaid and overworked adjuncts, and many more who simply give up in frustration. Those who do make it share an important asset that separates them from the pack: they have a plan. They understand exactly what they need to do to set themselves up for success. They know what really moves the needle in academic job searches, how to avoid the all-too-common mistakes that sink so many of their peers, and how to decide when to point their Ph.D. toward other, non-academic options. Karen Kelsky has made it her mission to help readers join the select few who get the most out of their Ph.D. As a former tenured professor and department head who oversaw numerous academic job searches, she knows from experience exactly what gets an academic applicant a job. And as the creator of the popular and widely respected advice site The Professor is In, she has helped countless Ph.D.’s turn themselves into stronger applicants and land their dream careers. Now, for the first time ever, Karen has poured all her best advice into a single handy guide that addresses the most important issues facing any Ph.D., including: -When, where, and what to publish -Writing a foolproof grant application -Cultivating references and crafting the perfect CV -Acing the job talk and campus interview -Avoiding the adjunct trap -Making the leap to nonacademic work, when the time is right The Professor Is In addresses all of these issues, and many more.

A timely and complete resource for successful deal-making.