Raising The Kid You Love With The Ex You Hate

You and your former wife/husband are struggling to be civil to each other and you recognize the conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist who’s been in practice for 30+ years, knows what you’re up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take to avoid letting differences with your ex get in the way of being the best mom or the best dad you can be. Conflicts inevitably arise from living in two households. You don’t have to like your ex, but, if you are going to co-parent successfully, you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real-world families. His book shows you how to: • Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation and divorce • Cope with child support and other money issues • Handle the holidays and special family occasions • Choose and adjust to new schools • Introduce your child to a potential new partner • Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully • Decide when to recruit the help of a parent coordinator • Raise a healthy child while co-parenting You’ll draw strength and encouragement from the positive outcomes he’s helped hurting parents and children achieve as they confronted such gripping problem areas. Dr. Farber’s expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of your children caught in the crossfire.

Powerful advice for you and your ex-spouse on how to reduce conflict and protect your children's well-being by co-parenting You and your ex are struggling to be civil to each other. The conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist on the clinical faculty of the George Washington University School of Medicine has been in practice for 30+ years; he knows what you're up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take during and after divorce to still be the best mom or the best dad you can be. You don't have to like your ex, but to co-parent successfully you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real families. His book shows you how to - Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation, divorce, and co-parenting - Cope with child support and other money issues - Handle the holidays, special family occasions, school sports, and religion - Introduce your child to a potential new partner - Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully - Raise a healthy child while co-parenting Dr. Farber's expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of you and your child.

If you're in a troubled marriage, divorce might seem like a reasonable option. But in most cases, it's a calamity. Shows like Bravo's Girlfriends' Guide to Divorce and HBO's Divorce normalize the dissolution of marriage, making couples feel that divorce can be a happy new beginning. Celebrities suggest a norm that divorce is not only acceptable but advisable. Gwyneth Paltrow's "conscious uncoupling" makes divorce seem trendy and enlightened. Today, couples are even throwing "divorce parties"—complete with invitations and caterers! Enough, says psychologist Diane Medved. If you're hurtling down the road to divorce, the first thing to do is to put on the brakes. Don't let your spouse, your friends, or the "divorce industry" rush you into ending your marriage. Take a deep breath and read this book. Drawing on three decades of clinical and personal experience, Dr. Medved will show why you should save—and revitalize—your marriage. She expertly unmasks the threats to marriage, including hookup apps that promise non-committal sex, and legions of professionals who are financially invested in your divorce. She punctures one-by-one the arguments in favor of divorce, proving that "the good divorce" is a myth. Don't Divorce is the antidote to a pro-divorce culture, the tool that will empower you to revive a dying marriage and recover the happiness that seems out of reach.

Get ready for a parenting makeover! If you’re a parent today, you face extreme pressure to get everything exactly “right”—a pursuit of perfection that probably makes parenting feel hard. It encourages you to worry about whether you’re doing a good enough job, and to wonder if your kids will turn out okay. In The “Perfect” Parent, Roma Khetarpal puts all of that agony to rest. She explains that the key to a fulfilling parenting experience is to stop chasing an ideal and instead use your inner perfection to nurture a strong, communicative connection with your children—which will lead them to be happy, think positive, and do good. Drawing from the fields of personal growth and emotional intelligence and distilling cutting-edge scientific research, Khetarpal leads you through five communication tools designed to help parents strengthen their bond with their kids and handle the doubt, guilt, worry, and fear that often accompany the challenges of raising children. Along the way, she shares helpful, humorous real-life stories taken from the popular parenting classes she’s taught for years, as well as easy-to-remember exercises—such as “Dealing with the Feeling” and “Take Five”—for use in common family situations. With this short, useful, and enjoyable guide, you will be equipped with the simple tools you need to build a relationship with your kids that lasts a lifetime. Includes a “Perfect’ parent toolbox!

No one walks into a marriage thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures together, growing old together, where they may want to retire, places they want to visit someday, their hopes and dreams and goals for themselves and for each other. When the marriage ends, there is generally a feeling of failure that goes along with it. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and we all know that we have to work at it to keep it together. If it ends, does that mean we didnt work hard enough? Didnt try hard enough? Didnt do enough to keep our spouse happy? What went wrong? Why couldnt I make it work? Why couldnt I fix the problems? These feelings are so common, especially among all of the overachievers out there who believe they can accomplish anything and fix anything if they just try hard enough. Recognize that life is not fair and accept that reality. However, also recognize that sometimes it is not fair in your favor. Imbalance sometimes tips toward you and sometimes away from you. Dont dwell on the times when it feels like the world is against you; instead celebrate the times when everything seems to be going your way. Take responsibility for your own happiness. If anyone intrudes on your happiness, recognize that it is your own fault for allowing it to happen. No one can make you feel any particular wayyou control your own feelings and reactions. You choose how you will handle any particular situation. You can wallow in self-pity and wither away, or you can learn from a negative experience, grow from it, and become a better, stronger, and happier person. Accept responsibility for your own future; it is all on you now, and if you dont take responsibility for it, no one else will.

In this book the following topics are addressed: Why I wrote the book; How do we form our relationships; Why marriages fail; Why second marriages fail at a higher rate; How to foster a healthy union; What divorce looks like to the kid; A healthy divorce; Parenting through divorce; and Finding the right counselor. “A magnum opus is not made in a microwave; it is incubated and nurtured. This book is a synergy between Dr. Waldman’s many other works. The heart and soul of this effort is to protect our most valuable natural resource (our children) from more needless damage. Thank you, Larry for the privilege of reading your manuscript.” —Dr. Karl Riem, Psychologist (Retired) “Dr. Waldman’s book on divorce is a guide on what to do and not to do when contemplating a divorce. Reading this book and following his guidance, could prevent parents from making mistakes that will impact their children’s lives and future relationships in a negative manner. It will also assist parents in answering their children’s questions and concerns, before and during a divorce in a constructive manner. I wish I had this information when I was on my divorce journey, it would have prevented a number of mistakes on my part.” —Cary Silverstein, MBA Professor Emeritus, DeVry University / Keller Graduate School of Business “Dr. Waldman’s published articles fit very well within his exhortation that we consider our children and their well-being over our own selfish interests in situations of marital difficulty or divorce. Anyone who has worked as a child mental health provider has witnessed some of the scenarios he outlines in this book for us. I enjoyed the reading, and found the pace quick, and the material provocative.” —Stephen D Bailey, Ed.D., Licensed Psychologist HSPP, Child/Geriatric Neuropsychologist “This book is great and covers so many important issues. Every couple contemplating or in the middle of a divorce should carefully read each chapter for insight into avoiding mistakes and putting the children FIRST.” —Linda Feldman, Director of Family Education Bureau of Jewish Education of Greater Phoenix

Working with Co-Parents is a practical manual for therapists and social workers who work with divorced and/or separated parents of children. Unique among other books that focus on therapy with the parents individually, the author’s model brings the divorced couple together to help them understand their child’s experience and to assist them in developing a road to constructive co-parenting. This manual also includes illustrative case vignettes, session outlines and handouts, and homework reflection questions. Therapists and counselors will learn tools and interventions that they can apply immediately and effectively to their work with divorced couples.

Protect your child from alienation and loyalty conflicts. During and after a difficult divorce, it’s easy for your relationship with your kids to become strained—especially if you are dealing with a toxic ex who bad-mouths you in front of your children, accuses you of being a bad parent, and even attempts to “replace” you with a new partner in your children’s lives. Your children may become confused, conflicted, angry, anxious, or depressed—and you may feel powerless. But there is help. In this guide, you’ll discover a positive parenting approach to dealing with a hostile ex-spouse. You'll learn the best ways to protect your children from painful loyalty conflicts, how to avoid parental alienation syndrome, and techniques for talking to your children in a way that fosters honesty and trust. Co-parenting with a toxic ex can be challenging, but with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever.