The Good Divorce

It's never too late to have a good divorce Based on two decades of groundbreaking research, The Good Divorce presents the surprising finding that in more than fifty percent of divorces couples end their marriages, yet preserve their families. Dr. Ahrons shows couples how they can move beyond the confusing, even terrifying early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a "binuclear" family--one that spans two households and continues to meet the needs of children. The Good Divorce makes an important contribution to the ongoing "family values" debate by dispelling the myth that divorce inevitability leaves emotionally troubles children in its wake. It is a powerful tonic for the millions of divorcing and long-divorces parents who are tired of hearing only the damage reports. It will make us change the way we think about divorce and the way we divorce, reconfirming our commitment to children and families.

The story of feisty mother, Rosie Martin, who is determined to manage her divorce in the best way possible.

So, what kind of a divorce do you actually want to have? Just by asking this question YOU create the possibility that you have a choice in the matter! Do you want a divorce that is painful, expensive, and damaging to your children - a divorce like so many others in our society today where a worst-case outcome seems to have become the expected and accepted norm? Or do you want a divorce that is relatively painless and drama free, not more expensive than it needs to be, and one that leaves your children whole and your ability to co-parent amicably intact? It is possible to have a Good Divorce! In The Good Divorce: How to consciously create the best possible outcome for you and your family, Andrew Silvert, Becky Shook-Wotzka, and guest author Sonika Tinker give you everything you need to know to create a Good Divorce for you and your family. As the driver behind the idea for this book, Andrew knew his divorce journey was a story that needed to be told. Shared with passion and practicality, his nuggets of wisdom will make you believe that a Good Divorce is possible for you and your family. At Transitions for Life Mediation, Becky worked with over 300 couples utilizing the tools and techniques shared in this book to make her client's Good Divorces a reality. Transitions for Life does the remarkable every day: they create agreement and put integrity into the experience of divorce!

Divorce is a complicated process and not a single event. It has major life implications and must be done right. In this regard, the good divorce is an ethical divorce. The Good Divorce does not follow the pattern of the ubiquitous self-help genre - over simplified and formulaic. Nevertheless, it is designed to be helpful by providing an in-depth exploration of the separation process, post-divorce adjustment, telling the children, caring for children from infants to teens, decision-making models, pathologies of divorce and, finally, hope and recovery through creating an important space for discovery. The author is a clinician and the book is written from the well of experience, scholarship and study that professional practice provides. Yet, it is not written academically and is intended for a general as well as professional audience. The reader will find the helpful inclusion of clinical examples and ample opportunities for reflection and deeper thinking into the many issues that arise in divorce for individuals and families.

Raoul Felder, a take-no-prisoners divorce attorney, draws from his experience to show readers how to avoid an acrimonious divorce and move on with life There is nothing better than a good marriage. But when a marriage goes bad, there is no better option than divorce to give men and women a chance to start over. Handled wisely, divorce can be a beginning, not an end. It is the doorway to a new life free of hurt, anger, and resentment. Felder and Victor cover each phase of divorce, from knowing when to call it quits, to choosing a lawyer, to the final decree. They explore prenuptial contracts, mediation, alimony, child custody, same-sex marriage, and life after divorce. They also share some of the most important facts one should know such as: • The first offer a woman gets when divorce negotiations begin is usually the best. • In all divorces, income rather than assets determine who pays what to whom. • Divorce is about compromise. Divorce court is not a boxing ring. After years of watching how divorce can go tragically wrong, Felder uses his expert knowledge, including case histories from his list of celebrity clients, to suggest how to make divorce more fair, civilized, and painless.

Positive advice for divorced dads and their families The country's leading authority on fathers' rights Jeffery M. Leving presents a definitive how-to resource for divorced dads of any age, background, and marriage history. Leving offers targeted guidance and suggests techniques for staying connected with children and dealing with ex-wives—and in some cases a new girlfriend or the wife's new boyfriend—during the divorce and afterwards. This upbeat book offers good news for divorced dads and counters many of the myths that paint divorcing fathers as alienated, irresponsible, or absent. Includes advice for overcoming limited access to children with cooperative responses and legal remedies if necessary Reveals how to avoid depression and feelings of guilt that can cause a divorced dad to give up and lose connection with his kids Offers ideas for responding to an ex-wife's remarriage, moving, unfounded accusations, and other common issues Contains guidance for engaging in new relationships and possibly remarriage How to Be a Good Divorced Dad is practical and down-to-earth and offers dozens of real life examples of dads who have discovered the importance of staying involved in their children's lives.

A step-by-step guide to the emotional work parents must do to make their divorce a success for themselves and their children. The authors present practical instructions for conflict resolution and illustrate the importance of co-operation in divorce.