The Wounded Male

Modern men are wounded by historical and cultural developments as well as by specific family problems. Traditional masculinity is a straitjacket that forces men to repress all their emotions under an "I-can-handle-it" facade -- a facade that enourages men to become emotionally numb, unable to feel joy as well as sadness. But men don't have to live this way. THE WOUNDED MALE describes the sources and consequences of the many wounds men receive from society and family, including the "father wound" (how the physical or emotional absence of a father or a father-as-rigid-disciplinarian can profoundly affect a growing boy) and the "mother wound" (which is rooted in the extremes of too much mothering -- engulfing -- or too little mothering -- abandoning). Farmer personalizes his analysis with examples from his own life and the lives of other men. He shows that healing the wounds of manhood is not a one-shot deal, but a long, slow journey of self-discovery. Whether you are just setting out on that journey or wish to travel farther and deeper, you will find THE WOUNDED MALE an indispensable companion.

A record of one man's journey to find his "true masculinity" and his way out of co-dependent and addictive relationships. It's a book for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families and are now ready for some fresh insights into their past and their pain. It's a story about feelings - losing them, finding them and finally expressing them. Here you will find people you know; will discover a way out of the pain and see that it really is OK to express yourself without fear. The book is about grieving, a very misunderstood process often confused with self-pity. Open the doors to understanding - men will understand themselves and each other, and women will more deeply understand men, learn how to be with wounded men and still take care of themselves.

Offers adult male victims of child abuse a procedure for facilitating the recovery process, and suggests ways to break the cycle of violence.

"This innovative book examines an important, timely topicÖThe content will greatly enhance practitioners' and students' understanding and skills in working with men of color." - Elaine P. Congress, DSW, Fordham University Graduate School of Social Service "Family Violence and Men of Color is the best book in cross-cultural issues and domestic violence that I have ever read. It is a good combination of literature review, clinical interventions and cultural imagery." -Daniel Sonkin, PhD, Marriage, Family and Child Counselor Family violence is an international epidemic that knows no cultural boundaries, but for years research has overlooked the historical, political and cultural factors that often lead men toward violent behavior. The first edition of Family Violence and Men of Color broke new ground by closely examining the relationship between race and family violence. This revised edition offers an even broader, cross-cultural analysis of male violence and more specialized treatment methods and approaches. Key Features: Chapters analyzing violent behavioral patterns in each major community of color Three new chapters on the African-American and Maori ommunities, in addition to the Latino, Native American, Asian, and South American communities Culturally-based strategies and models that enhance the efficacy of existing intervention programs for men who batter Integrates clinical, experiential, and narrative approaches to family violence This text calls for a critical evaluation and transformation of cultural practices that promote violence against women, and will be pivotal in the development of more effective prevention and intervention programs in the years to come.

A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a groundbreaking and hopeful guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression, essential not only for men who may be suffering but for the people who love them. Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.

In this deeply learned book, poet and translator Robert Bly offers nothing less than a new vision of what it is to be a man.Bly's vision is based on his ongoing work with men and reflections on his own life. He addresses the devastating effects of remote fathers and mourns the disappearance of male initiation rites in our culture. Finding rich meaning in ancient stories and legends, Bly uses the Grimm fairy tale "Iron John," in which the narrator, or "Wild Man," guides a young man through eight stages of male growth, to remind us of archetypes long forgotten-images of vigorous masculinity, both protective and emotionally centered.Simultaneously poetic and down-to-earth, combining the grandeur of myth with the practical and often painful lessons of our own histories, Iron John is a rare work that will continue to guide and inspire men-and women-for years to come.

The literary study of emotion is part of an important revisionary movement among scholars eager to recast emotional politics for the twenty-first century. Looking beyond the traditional categories of sentiment, sensibility, and sympathy, Jennifer Travis suggests a new approach to reading emotionalism among men. She argues that the vocabulary of injury, with its evaluations of victimhood and its assessments of harm, has deeply influenced the cultural history of emotions. From the Civil War to the early twentieth century, Travis traces the history of male emotionalism in American discourse. She argues that injury became a comfortable vocabulary--particularly among white middle-class men--through which to articulate and to claim a range of emotional wounds. The debates about injury that flourished in the cultural arenas of medicine, psychology, and the law spilled over into the realm of fiction, as Travis demonstrates through readings of works by Stephen Crane, William Dean Howells, Willa Cather, Henry James, and Edith Wharton. Travis concludes by linking this history to twenty-first-century preoccupations with "pain-centered politics," which, she cautions, too often focuses only on women and racial minorities.

Apostle Dedric Hubbard releases a powerful companion devotional to his best-selling book The Wounded Man (A Silent Struggle). In this powerful releases Apostle Hubbard has targeted 7 critical areas in which men fail when it comes to communicating with women. Those 7 areas are Finances, Spirituality, Insecurities, Intimacy, Time, Honesty and Communication be prepared for an eye opening revelation of the struggles of men.