This Person Is You

Choosing the right person to marry is probably the most significant factor in your personal happiness, but how do you know who is right for you? Most of us don't really know what we are looking for, so we look for the wrong things, in the wrong places and fall in love with the wrong people. This is all in your power to change. After reading this book and working through the exercises, you will have your own personalized dating strategy. In the process, you will learn: What you value, and how those values drive your decision making What interests you, and how your interests influence your relationships Your preferred way of thinking, learning, organizing, and interacting with the world, and how that effects your lifestyle choices Your expectations for a relationship, both in terms of what you can give, and what you need in return The type of person you will stay in love with, and who will accept and like you the way you are (yes, that person is out there) Where to look for this type of person, and how to find him or her How to know when you have found him or her and when to keep looking Your expectations

A crisp and sparkling blend of cognitive science and human behavior that offers meaningful and attainable pathways towards becoming our best selves. Why do we feel like in order to be productive, happy, or good, we must sacrifice everything else? Is it possible to feel all three at once? Without even knowing it, we’re doing things everyday to sabotage ourselves and our societies, habits that prevent us from optimizing long term happiness. Where most books imagine solutions that, when enacted, fail to fundamentally improve our lives, Jim Davies grounds his research in cognitive science to show you not only what works, but how much it works. Being the Person Your Dog Thinks You Are shows us how we can use science to become our best selves, using resources we already have within our own brains. Davies's book challenges and inspires us to approach the big picture while also staying mindful of the everyday details in real life. Davies proves why multitasking is bad for you, when a little unmindfulness can be good for you, how to best justify which charities to donate to, and how to hack your brain. The most surprising truth Davies offers us spreads across these pages like wildfire: you too can lead an optimally good life, not through uprooting your life from the ground up, but from adapting your mentality to your given present. A better life doesn’t need to look like a massive change—like our beloved dogs who already view us as our best selves, it’s already much closer than you think.

“Finally: an engaging, evidence-based book about how to battle biases, champion diversity and inclusion, and advocate for those who lack power and privilege. Dolly Chugh makes a convincing case that being an ally isn’t about being a good person—it’s about constantly striving to be a better person.” —Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B with Sheryl Sandberg Foreword by Laszlo Bock, the bestselling author of Work Rules! and former Senior Vice President of People Operations at Google An inspiring guide from Dolly Chugh, an award-winning social psychologist at the New York University Stern School of Business, on how to confront difficult issues including sexism, racism, inequality, and injustice so that you can make the world (and yourself) better. Many of us believe in equality, diversity, and inclusion. But how do we stand up for those values in our turbulent world? The Person You Mean to Be is the smart, "semi-bold" person’s guide to fighting for what you believe in. Dolly reveals the surprising causes of inequality, grounded in the "psychology of good people". Using her research findings in unconscious bias as well as work across psychology, sociology, economics, political science, and other disciplines, she offers practical tools to respectfully and effectively talk politics with family, to be a better colleague to people who don’t look like you, and to avoid being a well-intentioned barrier to equality. Being the person we mean to be starts with a look at ourselves. She argues that the only way to be on the right side of history is to be a good-ish— rather than good—person. Good-ish people are always growing. Second, she helps you find your "ordinary privilege"—the part of your everyday identity you take for granted, such as race for a white person, sexual orientation for a straight person, gender for a man, or education for a college graduate. This part of your identity may bring blind spots, but it is your best tool for influencing change. Third, Dolly introduces the psychological reasons that make it hard for us to see the bias in and around us. She leads you from willful ignorance to willful awareness. Finally, she guides you on how, when, and whom, to engage (and not engage) in your workplaces, homes, and communities. Her science-based approach is a method any of us can put to use in all parts of our life. Whether you are a long-time activist or new to the fight, you can start from where you are. Through the compelling stories Dolly shares and the surprising science she reports, Dolly guides each of us closer to being the person we mean to be.

This book will help you to discover the following: - Your attributes (Personality) -.How to focus on your strengths - Embracing your weaknesses - Knowing the person that you are before making any critical decisions in your life - The importance of getting to know the people around you - How incomplete you are without God - Understanding your relationship with the Holy Spirit

Make instant, meaningful connections. For interviewing, selling, managing, pitching an idea, applying to college—or looking for a soulmate—the secret of success is based on connecting with other people. And you can do it in 90 seconds or less through Nicholas Boothman’s program of establishing face-to-face communication. A master of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Boothman teaches us the concept of synchrony—how to synchronize our attitudes, body language, and voice tone in a way that instantly and imperceptibly makes us irresistibly likable to another person. He explains the different between open and closed body language. The power of communicating with what he calls a Really Useful Attitude. How to be an active listener. And how to identify and read the three most important sensory preferences. Step by step, it shows how to make the very best of any relationship’s most critical moment—those first 90 seconds.

Just as the head of state is the only one that matters in a state, this book introduces the only person that matters in life. To have a relationship with people that matter, you must have something to offer. For example, you may not be allowed to see the president unless you matter. However, this book explains that a relationship with this person requires nothing from you but your willingness. If a relationship is to thrive, it will solely depend on the mutual understanding of those involved. This book paints the picture of this person in a closer look than the long distance beliefs. It is never just enough to start a relationship, but keeping and sustaining it is the key. In this book, you will learn how to keep and sustain a relationship with this person.

I believe it is a necessity for people to fulfill who they are and for this reason, I don't want to see anyone leave this life without having lived to their full potential or at least maximizing every attempt to do so. The context of becoming that I am speaking of is something that some people are groomed, raised, or educated to be while others may be intuitively wired to become. And those in the latter group may seemingly fumble and stumble upon or through the process. Nevertheless, the common goal is to become.