Unexpected Gifts

In this heartfelt and thoughtful book, Christopher Heuertz writes of the dangers of isolation, the challenges we face when we join together and the struggles and joys that emerge from genuine community bonding. “Ironically, as much as we yearn for deep friendships and meaningful communities, many of us seem to be unable to find our way into them. Even if we know we’re made for community, finding one and staying there seems almost impossible. Though we hate to admit it, if we stay long enough in any relationship or set of friendships, we will experience failure, doubt, burnout, loneliness, transitions, a loss of self, betrayal, frustration, a sense of entitlement, grief, and weariness. Yet it’s these painful community experiences, these tensions we struggle to navigate, that hold surprising gifts.” —FROM THE PREFACE IN A STRIKINGLY confessional tone and vividly illustrated through story, Unexpected Gifts names eleven inevitable challenges that all friendships, relationships, and communities experience if they stay together long enough. Rather than allowing these challenges to become excuses to leave, Chris Heuertz suggests that things like betrayal, transitions, failure, loss of identity, entitlement, and doubt may actually be invitations to stay. And if we stay, these challenges can become unexpected gifts. *** Betrayal, failure, loss of identity, doubt. If your relationships have suffered from any of these pitfalls, this book will show you that staying together can create something more—even something beautiful. IN THIS HEARTFELT and thoughtful book, Christopher Heuertz writes of the dangers of isolation, the challenges we face when we join together, and the struggles and joys that emerge from genuine community bonding. Whether readers are forming a new community, searching for deeper community, or participating in a longtime community, they will find inspiration, caution, guidance, and encouragement as they discover the beauty of pressing in to the ambiguities of growing relationships in this tender and honest testimony about how we are woven together by grace.

A small-town girl from Pennsylvania, author Katie McAndrews-McNeill harbored big dreams of working in the fashion world in New York City. After a twisty journey, she achieved that goal, enjoying success as she navigated through her career. Her priorities were dating, dining, fancying fine wines, and living in beautiful apartments in New York and on the Hudson in Hoboken, New Jersey. Life was more idyllic than she could have imagined. All that changed in 2004 when her only and older sister, Susie, was diagnosed with stage four colon cancer and died just fourteen months later. The decisions McAndrews-McNeill made changed her life in the most wonderful and unexpected ways. In Unexpected Gifts, she shares the story of the blessings she received after her sisters passing, deciding to forgo her fashion career to become a nanny for Susies two young daughters. Unexpected Gifts offers a message for anyone experiencing illness, death, or tragedy. Its about the strength to continue to live while you can, planning for the what ifs, and believing that in great loss can be found amazing, unexpected gifts if you allow yourself the opportunity.

"He didn't know his age, the year, or his surroundings, but he knew his life could still make a difference. On this path, he went forward with his heart. Every emotion was authentic. Each moment was new-but it was also full of love, anger, or fear, and he had to travel through it." In a matter of days, Eve Soldinger's life and family changed utterly: Her beloved father was diagnosed with dementia. The challenges are those every adult child faced with caring for an aging parent will recognize: How do I see to his needs? How do I protect him? How do I explain to others? But her insight and experience also bring a fresh, hopeful perspective. Discover with Eve and her family how they not only coped with practical challenges, but transformed heartbreaking years into a time of laughter, growth, and love-unexpected gifts that will enrich the lives of all families who walk this path.

Kate Standard had never wanted her life to be ordinary. A successful classical pianist and the girlfriend of move-hero Will Hollister, her life is anything but ordinary-until Will is jailed on drug charges and she must admit to herself that their affair had been dying long before his conviction. Even worse, the ugly publicity surrounding his case has all but destroyed her professional career. To escape the ever-present paparazzi, she accepts a temporary teaching job at a small college near San Diego, going from a high profile, luxurious lifestyle to living in a granny flat, cooking and cleaning for herself, and shepherding ten piano students through their first semester. Though she thinks she is simply marking time until her agent can get her new bookings, Kate finds that the months at Seaton College test her courage but give her gifts she didn't know she needed.

What attitudes make the difference between failure and success? In Discovering Unexpected Gifts, author Stephen Now gives us a way to illuminate life’s experiences, through his reflections on loss, love, fear, rejection, healing, and acceptance. Listeners hear how the author is transformed by challenging and joyful experiences, both “gifts,” and explaining how to assign value to both the events, some that are clearly blessings, as well as the ones that seem like obvious setbacks. He demonstrates the idea that life experience need not be a series of successes or achievements to be beautiful. Discovering Unexpected Gifts points to something beyond ourselves as we begin to understand we play a part in bringing unexpected gifts to others—and in so doing find meaning, purpose, and joy.

An insightful and powerful look at the magic of summer camp—and why it is so important for children to be away from home . . . if only for a little while. In an age when it’s the rare child who walks to school on his own, the thought of sending your “little ones” off to sleep-away camp can be overwhelming—for you and for them. But parents’ first instinct—to shelter their offspring above all else—is actually depriving kids of the major developmental milestones that occur through letting them go—and watching them come back transformed. In Homesick and Happy, renowned child psychologist Michael Thompson, PhD, shares a strong argument for, and a vital guide to, this brief loosening of ties. A great champion of summer camp, he explains how camp ushers your children into a thrilling world offering an environment that most of us at home cannot: an electronics-free zone, a multigenerational community, meaningful daily rituals like group meals and cabin clean-up, and a place where time simply slows down. In the buggy woods, icy swims, campfire sing-alongs, and daring adventures, children have emotionally significant and character-building experiences; they often grow in ways that surprise even themselves; they make lifelong memories and cherished friends. Thompson shows how children who are away from their parents can be both homesick and happy, scared and successful, anxious and exuberant. When kids go to camp—for a week, a month, or the whole summer—they can experience some of the greatest maturation of their lives, and return more independent, strong, and healthy.

Life is full of joy when it's least expected in this sweet Amish romance from the author of The Gift of Hope. Joshua Kanagy’s older brother has left the family gift shop business, which is wonderful gute for Aaron, but not for Joshua. Horses are his talent—raising and training them. But how can Joshua step away from the shop when his parents have already had to give up the dream of leaving their legacy to all three of their sons? Enter Joy Yoder, a determined, if sometimes misguided, helper who always manages to drag Joshua into her schemes and promises. Only now her focus turns to finding a solution to his problem, partly to distract from her own. Her mamm has her heart set on Joy marrying the minister’s son, and she’s not sure she wants to. Joy gets the grand idea to propose to Joshua, offering a partnership of convenience rather than love. But as the wedding approaches, Joy starts to develop feelings for Joshua. Is it possible Gotte’s plan for Joy includes faith, friendship, and love?

Snowed in for Christmas…She only wants to ignore it. But he’s determined to show her everything the season has to offer…including love. For Andi Williams, Christmas represents everything she’s supposed to have—and doesn’t. Running away to a remote mountain lodge seems like the perfect way to escape the season. And it would have been if it weren’t for the snow storm and a booking mix-up that finds her stranded. That is, until a rough around the edges, green eyed stranger offers a solution. There was no way in good conscience that Colin Hartford could leave the woman with nowhere to stay. Especially on Christmas. He knows all too well what it’s like to be alone for the holidays. It isn’t long before Colin’s determination to enjoy the festivities he’s missed for so long sweeps Andi into the season of joy that she’s not so sure she’s ready for. If Andi can allow herself to open up—just a little—she might finally have the chance to experience everything the holidays can really offer…including love.