Why Love Hurts And Why Self Love Is The Key

You might think, It's all very well saying 'self-love', but what does that mean, how do I actually go about doing it, and what does it have to do with my current problems? Self-love is not generic; it's as unique as your fingerprints and needs to be applied according to the battles that you're facing. This book is designed to wake you up, taking you on a journey where we break down why self-love is fundamental to your relationships and why getting 'woke' is the key that will revolutionise your love life. Discover why having 'a certain type' is a problem, how you inadvertently screw yourself over, and the unconscious processes that keep you repeating the same cycle again and again.You need this book if you:Feel baffled by your relationships and don't understand why loving someone results in so much pain.Settle for far less than you need and tolerate nonsense in the name of love.Struggle with having boundaries and feel that your partner (or ex) mistook your kindness for weakness.Always put your partner (or ex-partners) needs first and still end up feeling unwanted or unappreciated.Have started to become secretive about your love life and as a result, feel isolated and anxious.If you've answered, 'yes' to any of these, this book will provide the solace, comfort and insights that you have been looking for.Engaging, practical exercises expose the excuses that often keep you stuck, plus you will also gain invaluable insight into the process of change, how it occurs, why it's so hard and what you need to do to attain the love, that you know, at some level, you deserve. You will be guided and encouraged to see yourself as a work-in-progress so that you can choose self-compassion over self-condemnation. Light is at the end of the tunnel, and change is possible.More on the bookWhy Love Hurts is inspired by both my personal and professional experiences. Back in the late 90's I was in a 'give my all' relationship that resulted in domestic abuse. That experience changed my life exponentially and inspired my career. Today, I am a psychotherapist in private practice, and I am proud to bring my ideas and vision together in a book that comes from the heart, that breaks down why love hurts, what we can do about it, and how the change process really looks like.Bringing together years of knowledge and insights into an incredibly empowering read that has the potential to change your life, you will move beyond traditional self-help material and have an opportunity to do a deep dive into the unconscious dynamics that inform your intimate relationship patterns. This will provide you with crystal clear clarity about what steps need to be in place for you to revolutionise your life for you to experience the healthy, wholesome love that you know you deserve.

Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in Sisyphean internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose of this book is to change our way of thinking about what is wrong in modern relationships. The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love. The argument of this book is that the modern romantic experience is shaped by a fundamental transformation in the ecology and architecture of romantic choice. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: all these aspects of choice have transformed the very core of the will, how we want a partner, the sense of worth bestowed by relationships, and the organization of desire. This book does to love what Marx did to commodities: it shows that it is shaped by social relations and institutions and that it circulates in a marketplace of unequal actors.

Are you lost in your relationship? Or Are you looking for love, true love?Maybe you have settled for "good enough" because you think you can't ask for more from love? You can't seem to rekindle the passion or you've suffered from a broken heart or trauma that made you close off your heart to protect it.You might be searching for that elusive special someone but you're unsure what to do or you don't have the confidence to try? If you answered yes to any of that this book is for you.Inside relationship expert, author and coach Melody Chadamoyo shares her own love story, a story of love, passion, heartache, loss, self-discovery, and the lessons she's learned along the way.You'll discover how to apply these lessons in a step by step way and how you can apply them to not only find lasting love, true love but also in a way that enables you to love the most important person in your life - yourself.Split into 4 easy parts: In Part 1 Melody shares her story of why love is not enough to make a marriage last. After marrying the man of her dreams 2 years later she was extremely unhappy in her and seriously thinking about divorce. She blamed her husband for her unhappiness but he wouldn't or couldn't change. She decided to take responsibility for her own happiness. She joined the gym, started meeting up with friends and dancing as well as going back to reading. She discovered that she had lost herself and had no idea what to do as a wife that would not make her and her husband miserable. Her realization that men and women don't see the world the same way started her on a path to learn how to have relationships with men that make them feel more intimacy and her more valued.In Part 2 the book goes deeper into the importance of practicing self-love. You can't give what you don't have so before you expect love from others need to grow in loving yourself and then share with others. What is the self and how do you ensure you love yourself? There are examples that show you some of the actions that show you're not loving yourself and when you are. Self-love means loving even the bits about you that you don't like. Loving yourself is the step towards acceptance of yourself and others. It leads to unconditional love.Part 3 shows the difference between the traditional conditional love we have been taught and the real authentic true love. Love is what makes life worthwhile. It is also a choice. Loving consciously and accepting a person for who they are is practicing true love. You need to let go of the need to control others to allow them to be whom they are meant to be. Melody shares practical ways of how you can begin to do that. Part 4 helps you take self-love and true love and marry them to create blissful and amazing relationships. You get the tools to use to build your relationships so that they thrive and full of joy.

At the end of the last century, the idea of self-esteem became enormously influential. A staggering amount of psychological research and self-help literature was published, and before long was devoured by readers. Self-esteem initiatives permeated American schools. Self-esteem became the way of understanding ourselves, our personalities, our interactions with others. Nowadays, few people think much about the idea of self-esteem—but perhaps we should. Self-Esteem: An American History is the first historical study exploring the emotional politics of self-esteem in modern America. Written with verve and insight, Ian Miller’s expert analysis explores the critiques of self-help which accuse it of propping up conservative agendas by encouraging us to look solely inside ourselves to resolve life’s problems. At the same time, he reveals how African American, LGBTQ+ and feminist activists endeavored to build positive collective identities based upon self-esteem, pride and self-respect. This revelatory book will be essential reading for anyone with an interest in the history of mental health, well-being, emotions in the United States’ unique society and culture.

Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in Sisyphean internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose of this book is to change our way of thinking about what is wrong in modern relationships. The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love. The argument of this book is that the modern romantic experience is shaped by a fundamental transformation in the ecology and architecture of romantic choice. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: all these aspects of choice have transformed the very core of the will, how we want a partner, the sense of worth bestowed by relationships, and the organization of desire. This book does to love what Marx did to commodities: it shows that it is shaped by social relations and institutions and that it circulates in a marketplace of unequal actors.

Be the best version of you that YOU can be. How can you learn to truly love yourself? How can you transform negative emotions into positive ones? Is it possible to find lasting happiness? In this book, Instagram guru Vex King answers all of these questions and more. Vex overcame adversity to become a source of hope for thousands of young people, and now draws from his personal experience and his intuitive wisdom to inspire you to: - practise self-care, overcome toxic energy and prioritize your wellbeing - cultivate positive lifestyle habits, including mindfulness and meditation - change your beliefs to invite great opportunities into your life - manifest your goals using tried-and-tested techniques - overcome fear and flow with the Universe - find your higher purpose and become a shining light for others In this book, Vex will show you that when you change the way you think, feel, speak and act, you begin to change the world.

DISCOVER THE GODDESS WITHIN YOU Do you know who you really are? God Is a Woman: 7 Keys to Self-Love and Empowerment for Women takes you on a step by step journey to discovering the answer to this age old question. On your path, you will: *Meet your spiritual self *Learn the true meaning of unconditional love *Understand the importance of forgiveness *Test your faith *Discover your life purpose Your life will be changed with the jewels of knowledge found in this small but powerful book. Kioni Carter, is insightful, honest and inspiring. Her writing style is engaging, spiritual and real. God Is A Woman is a wonderful book that will help you to expand your mind and spirit as you move along your path to personal growth and empowerment -Keva Larthridge-Mack, Personal Life Coach *IMPORTANT* Please choose regular shipping from the drop down box to avoid paying extra shipping prices.

Discusses "loving too much" as a pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors which certain women develop as a reponse to various problems in their family backgrounds.