I Know How You Feel

The "Psychology Today" blogger and therapist shares insights into the complicated landscape of women's friendships, drawing on the experiences of clients from all walks of life, as well as examples in literature and pop culture to offer counsel on a range of issues.

Sometimes you just feel...meh. You don't really feel like doing anything or talking to anyone. You're not even sure how you're feeling inside. Is that bad? With fun, witty illustrations and simple, straightforward text, I Feel...Meh tackles apathy—recognizing it as a valid emotion, while also offering practical steps to get you out of your emotional slump. It's the perfect way for kids—and adults—who are feeling gray to find some joy again! Sometimes I feel meh and I don't want to play. I don't want to read and I have nothing to say. This series helps kids recognize, express, and deal with the roller coaster of emotions they feel every day. It has been celebrated by therapists, psychologists, teachers, and parents as wonderful tools to help children develop self-awareness for their feelings and those of their friends.

In their book, I Want to Tell You How I Feel, husband and wife psychologists, Deb Brock and Ron Johnson, provide a paradigm for understanding what may be the most important element of human psychology. They suggest that people's feelings can be understood, valued, and utilized in order to enliven them personally and enhance them interpersonally to such a degree that they can find true contentment, meaning, and satisfaction in life. They have dared to unpack the murky waters of "feelings" with precision without falling prey to simplistic ideas of feelings nor complex neurological assessment of feelings. The authors propose that if people grasp how they feel, they will subsequently grasp how other people feel, and in this interchange of feelings, they will profoundly enhance communication and ultimately relationships. Johnson and Brock propose a unique paradigm for understanding feelings by first suggesting that "feelings," while undefined, are the most basic experience and expression of one's core self, sometimes called soul or spirit. The authors immediately admit to the undefined nature of such words as feelings, core self, soul, or spirit but note that such elements of humanity can be understood and utilized just as the equally undefined words love, time, and distance are undefined. While undefined, feelings can be observed in their experience and expression which comes sequentially physically, emotionally, cognitively, and actively. Thus, an important concept that Johnson and Brock propose is that emotion is the second experience one has when experiencing or expressing feelings but not the entirety of one's feelings, and for many people not the most important. They suggest that some people are inclined to express or experience their feelings emotionally while others may be more inclined to physical manifestations, cognition, or activity in experience and expression of feelings. The authors suggest a commensurate four-part paradigm of personality temperament that often reflects one's preference for experiencing and expressing feelings. They further delineate the four basic emotions suggesting that are "love-based" emotions of joy and sadness and two "defense-based" emotions of fear and anger. With the groundwork of the book in this depth understanding of feelings, emotions, and personality temperament, Brock and Johnson present a myriad of scenarios between people demonstrating how to use their basic understanding of feelings. In these later chapters the authors focus on practical, down-to-earth examples of how people fail to communicate their feelings and examples of how they can succeed in feeling communication. They suggest "rules for engagement" in one chapter. They devote another chapter to the concept of emotional hurt which, they suggest, is often at the heart of miscommunication, and suggest ways of understanding, managing, and communicating hurt before it turns to defensive-based emotions of anger or fear. Drs. Johnson and Brock have compiled a valuable book that is grounded in equal measures of science, theory, and their 100 years of experience in the field of psychology. Read this book and you will be compelled to think deeper, feel deeper, and communicate better.

The author remembers her teenage years: the questions, concerns, hurts, and revelations. Now, as a college student, Cheryl takes a straightforward approach to the issues facing teens today, speaking directly to them on a variety of topics, including peer pressure, relationships, schoolwork, and hypocrisy.

Have you ever heard of an empath? “I Know How You Fee!” tells of the unusual experiences in the most extraordinary year of the author’s life. It led to her discovery that she is an empath. At nearly 60, this was a surprising revelation. It not only explained the strange, preceding events, but also threw light on her past life. Different episodes brought varying emotions and reactions. She delved deeply into her past, including recalling times of depression. Her fight to maintain a positive outlook wasn’t easy, but sometimes she would receive unexpected help. Sometimes she became overwhelmed and for a long spell compulsively wrote poetry. The twelve months culminated in two beneficial, life-changing events. This is a book of parts including her story, her poems, aspects of depression, plus information and advice about being an empath.

“WE NEED TO TALK.” In this urgent and insightful book, public radio journalist Celeste Headlee shows us how to bridge what divides us--by having real conversations BASED ON THE TED TALK WITH OVER 10 MILLION VIEWS NPR's Best Books of 2017 Winner of the 2017 Silver Nautilus Award in Relationships & Communication “We Need to Talk is an important read for a conversationally-challenged, disconnected age. Headlee is a talented, honest storyteller, and her advice has helped me become a better spouse, friend, and mother.” (Jessica Lahey, author of New York Times bestseller The Gift of Failure) Today most of us communicate from behind electronic screens, and studies show that Americans feel less connected and more divided than ever before. The blame for some of this disconnect can be attributed to our political landscape, but the erosion of our conversational skills as a society lies with us as individuals. And the only way forward, says Headlee, is to start talking to each other. In We Need to Talk, she outlines the strategies that have made her a better conversationalist—and offers simple tools that can improve anyone’s communication. For example: BE THERE OR GO ELSEWHERE. Human beings are incapable of multitasking, and this is especially true of tasks that involve language. Think you can type up a few emails while on a business call, or hold a conversation with your child while texting your spouse? Think again. CHECK YOUR BIAS. The belief that your intelligence protects you from erroneous assumptions can end up making you more vulnerable to them. We all have blind spots that affect the way we view others. Check your bias before you judge someone else. HIDE YOUR PHONE. Don’t just put down your phone, put it away. New research suggests that the mere presence of a cell phone can negatively impact the quality of a conversation. Whether you’re struggling to communicate with your kid’s teacher at school, an employee at work, or the people you love the most—Headlee offers smart strategies that can help us all have conversations that matter.

Gives coping and managing techniques to deal with ones emotions.

'This book has given our daughter life's most essential skill: the ability to notice and manage her thoughts. This skill has fundamentally changed her present and her future. We will be forever grateful.' Scarlett's mum Written in an accessible and humorous style, this book teaches you to know what's going on in your mind and how to get your feelings under control. It'll help you adapt and feel better about your place in the world. Psychologist Gwendoline Smith uses her broad scientific knowledge and experience to explain in clear and simple language what's happening when you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious and confused.