Life After Infidelity How To Save Your Marriage After An Affair

Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime. Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy . . . but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.

Infidelity hurts. Nothing you've ever been through hurts as bad as finding out you've been betrayed by your spouse. The intense feeling of rage, depression and jealousy can be almost too much to take. Your marriage (or relationship) can survive infidelity, but you've got to take control and lead the way.Life After Infidelity offers sage advice for those looking to reconcile a relationship battered by infidelity. You can save your marriage. It's going to take a lot of work, but it can be salvaged and maybe even turned into something stronger than what you had before. The following topics are covered in this helpful book: What infidelity is and how the definition differs from relationship to relationship. Why people cheat. Understanding what you're going through. Coping with infidelity and how you can better deal with your emotions. Can your relationship be fixed? The two pillars of a solid relationship. How to rebuild trust and to learn to trust again. Why forgiveness is critical to reconciliation. How to set boundaries and enforce them. Making your marriage (or relationship) stronger after infidelity. Recognizing the warning signs of infidelity. How infidelity affects children and what you can do to minimize the impact it has on your kids. What to do if you're the one who was caught cheating and you want to salvage your relationship. The emotions associated with infidelity and why what you're feeling is probably normal. Revenge affairs and why they need to be avoided. Whether or not you should contact the other person and the other person's spouse (the answer might surprise you). Couples therapy. Should you tell your friends and family? How long it takes before you start feeling better. Why your partner has to agree not to contact the other person ever again. Your relationship can survive infidelity and come out the other end stronger and happier. Buy this book and learn how.

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

A Guide to Rebuilding Trust and Intimacy It's devastating to discover that the person you trust the most has betrayed you. You'll be facing some hard questions after learning of your partner's infidelity. You may choose to rebuild your relationship, or you may decide to move on. Whatever the right decision is for you, this book will help you figure out why your partner betrayed you and decide whether you can remain in your relationship. It will also show you new ways to relate that can help you and your partner become a lasting, loving, and committed couple. You'll start by taking a look at the phenomenon of infidelity and the three types of intimacy: self-intimacy, conflict intimacy, and affection intimacy. Then you'll learn about the three kinds of infidelity—those of fear, of loneliness, and of anger—and what each reveals about your relationship. Then it's on to practical exercises that can heal emotional wounds and enable you to recover your ability to trust. Even if you decide not to remain with your current partner, the book will help you make wise relationship choices to "affair-proof" your future relationship.

Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.

A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.

Christian author and speaker Jill Savage found herself reeling from the discovery of her husband's infidelity. It was one very dark year that included a four-month separation.Their marriage survived and they now share their story openly as authors and speakers to help others who are walking through their own dark season. After answering hundreds of emails and Facebook messages from brokenhearted men and women whose spouse have betrayed them, Jill put together this short, easy-to-read book that will give you the wisdom and encouragement you need to find your footing in the chaotic mess you've found yourself in.Your Next Steps will help you:-Find a peace even in the middle of the mess.-Understand what forgiveness is and isn't.-Reframe your pain in a way that helps you move forward.-See your spouse in a way that allows healing to happen.-Understand you're not alone.It's a little, but power-packed, faith-based book that provides the hope and help you desperately need.