Overcoming Destructive Anger

Tools for breaking free from mindless anger and the suffering it brings. Uncontrolled anger can be devastating, yet many people with serious anger issues don’t know how to change their behavior. In Overcoming Destructive Anger, psychologist Bernard Golden, an anger management specialist, offers concrete tools for turning destructive anger into healthy anger. Dr. Golden draws on both compassion-focused therapy—a model for change that encompasses and expands on cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and practices in compassion and self-compassion—and theories of emotional intelligence. He teaches readers to recognize, sit with, and move beyond the triggers that cause destructive anger. Anger logs and other exercises, together with stories of people who were challenged by anger and able to overcome their outbursts, allow readers to explore the source of their anger and recognize its destructive potential. Emphasizing anger’s link to habits of thinking, feeling, and physical reactions, Dr. Golden offers multiple strategies for coping with current hurts as well as past wounds. And he directs readers to helpful websites, books, and films. Dr. Golden explains why destructive anger happens and how it can contribute to divorce, estranged families, job loss, addictions, and even imprisonment. Emphasizing the importance of making calm, constructive choices and cultivating self-empathy, this guide will free people with destructive anger—and those around them—to live more fulfilling lives.

Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone—and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself—and for the person you love. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.

This new book from anger expert Potter-Efron offers powerful, emergency help to anyone whose extreme and volatile rages cause him or her to lose control of emotions, behaviors, and even conscious awareness--causing sometimes irreparable emotional and physical harm to themselves, their loved ones, and, occasionally, to innocent by-standers....

With the help of this useful book, you too can overcome those emotions that destroy. --

With its updated cover, the classic bestseller Overcoming Hurts & Anger (500,000 copies sold) continues to help readers find the love and acceptance they long for by teaching them how to handle strong emotions constructively. God-given emotions help people evaluate and cope with the world around them. But when they’re intense they can be overwhelming and harmful. And often Christians are told to ignore their anger and “be happy.” Packed with real-life illustrations from Dr. Carlson’s counseling practice, Overcoming Hurts & Anger encourages readers as they discover: why feeling angry is normal and acceptable what happens when anger and hurts are mishandled what the Bible really says about anger how to handle strong emotions step-by-step how anger and forgiveness interact In easy-to-understand language, Dwight shows readers how to approach people and circumstances in ways that keep communication open, handle problems as they arise, and keep God’s love, mercy, and grace flowing.

Out-of-control anger can destroy relationships, reputations, careers--even your health. But Dr. Robert Nay knows from extensive clinical experience that nearly anyone can learn to manage anger constructively--with enough practice. That's where this skillfully crafted workbook comes in. Using step-by-step learning exercises based on state-of-the-art knowledge about how the brain works, you can break old habits and replace them with more productive new ones. Dr. Nay's breakthrough STOP Method (Stop, Think, Objectify, and Plan) helps you: *Understand how anger flares up in your brain and body--and how you can lower the heat. *Identify the fleeting yet powerful thoughts that fuel destructive anger. *Replace aggression with appropriate assertiveness. *Effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs. *Defuse conflicts and find "win-win" solutions. *See how the strategies are applied in a wealth of realistic scenarios. While working through the book's simple checklists and fill-in-the-blank forms (you can download and print additional copies as needed), you'll be building real skills to apply in everyday life. When anger gets in the way of your personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.

Are you struggling to control your anger? Feel like you're on a short fuse all the time? Do little things tip you over the edge? Unhelpful beliefs and rigid expectations can lead to a cycle of unhealthy anger, which can be dangerous and destructive. Windy Dryden draws a distinction between healthy and unhealthy anger, and shows you how you can control your unhealthy anger by understanding what triggers it. The good news is that you have the power to change this pattern, and to develop strategies to express your anger in a helpful way, so that you can communicate what you feel without scaring yourself, or those close to you. Practical, rational, strategic and supportive, this updated second edition contains the latest therapeutic insights, allowing you to make lasting and meaningful changes to the way you process your beliefs and manage overwhelming or destructive emotions.

Extinguish anger forever and find true happiness with this step-by-step guide. Anger is a potent poison that ruins health and damages relationships. In today’s world of Twitter feuds, road rage, and internet trolls, it is all too easy for anger to grab hold of us. This timely book offers practical advice on how to put aside anger and ego and embrace laughter and reason. Like a friendly family physician, Venerable Sumanasara helps you see what triggers your anger, what affect it has on you, and what you can do about it. Maybe you have trouble at work or at home, maybe you had a difficult childhood, or maybe you just get angry in traffic. In short, bite-sized chapters, he offers wisdom, along with a laugh, that you can use. Drawing on easy-to-follow metaphors and parables from a variety of cultural traditions, in an accessible, conversational style free of dogma, Venerable Sumanasara shows us how to manage our emotions so that we can lead healthier, happier lives finally freed from anger.