This Is Why You Re Single

Modern dating is hard. Whether you're falling for that man-child for the 57th time or text messaging your way to stalker status, dating can make you want to find a nice, roomy hermitage on Airbnb and live a solitary, monk-like life. Luckily, that frustration ends now. This Is Why You're Single breaks away from your traditional dating guide by taking a page from Aesop's playbook with hilarious modern-day dating fables paired with advice, entertaining quizzes, graphs and illustrations. Dating will feel a whole lot more doable, a little less weird, and, well, actually pretty fun.

Have you ever wondered why you're single? If you are having trouble finding the right person, This Is Why You're Single provides essential realizations while offering solutions to bring you closer to a healthy and happy relationship. It will help you realign your frame of thinking and recognize patterns or behaviors that cause relationships to fail. While marriages are on the decline, it doesn't mean the right person isn't out there for you. You will learn some critical lessons such as breaking the cycle of choosing the wrong person so you can attract the man or woman that is just right for you.

Why You’re Still Single is not about chasing men, so you will not need a butterfly net. It is not about making them chase you, because they are not wolves and you are not a bunny. Relationship experts Evan Marc Katz and Linda Holmes do not suggest that you treat men like hostile alien presences, pretend you don’t understand football, buy padded bras, or refuse to call people back. But the benefit of other people’s experience might point out a few things that are tripping you up, no matter how much of an amazing, smart, hot, totally worthwhile ass-kicker you may be as a general rule. They recommend: Honesty (usually), playing fair, shutting up (sometimes), speaking up (other times), respecting that voice in your head that says "You’re doing WHAT?", making compromises, knowing when to cut bait, good sex, giving yourself a break, being needlessly generous, and periodically leaving your apartment. They don’t recommend: Pretending to like what you don’t like, treating winking and giggling like a Get Out Of Jail Free card, testing people, stubbornness, martyrdom, talking everything to death, and convincing yourself that you’re desperate.

“Why am I still single?” If you’re single and searching, there’s no end to other people’s explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven’t found a partner: “You’re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you’ll be fine.” “You’re too desperate. If men think you need them, they’ll run scared.” “You’re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.” “You have low self-esteem. You can’t love someone else until you’ve learned to love yourself.” “You’re too needy. You can’t be happy in a relationship until you’ve learned to be happy on your own.” Based on one of the most popular Modern Love columns of the last decade, Sara Eckel’s It’s Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there’s no one reason why you’re single—you just are.

“Behold a wonder—a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise.”—Kirkus Reviews If you want to find your soul mate, you first have to know yourself. If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? offers intelligent, practical guidance to singles looking to improve their romantic relationships—by getting to know their own past patterns and relationship needs. Readers will find quizzes, case studies, and anecdotes from the author’s decades of experience as a counselor to both couples and singles. Each aspect of the book is tailored to help readers figure out what they really want—and learn not to settle for less. Translated into twenty-two languages, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? has become a modern classic that’s helped countless people understand their own romantic motivations and find the partner they’re looking for. “Men and women who want permanent partners will benefit from her ‘10 strategies that will change your love life forever’…[an] engaging guide.”—Publishers Weekly

Shani Silver is not an advocate for singlehood. She's an advocate for single women feeling good while single-and there's a difference. A Single Revolution is one book for single women that won't approach you like you're unfinished. It's for those who are exhausted, frustrated, confused, or angry-who want relationships but don't deserve to be miserable in the meantime. A grueling dating grind isn't a prerequisite for partnership. You can be happily single and still meet someone-that's allowed. It's possible to value your single time so much that you refuse to give it up for anything less than the amazing relationships you deserve. It's also possible to stop searching for them so relentlessly that you ignore every other aspect of your valid, beautiful life. This isn't a book about dating. It's a book about living. You can choose how you feel about being single. You can choose to feel wrong, or you can choose to feel free. A Single Revolution isn't about changing yourself-it's about changing your mind.

An eye-opening, funny, painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of modern relationships and a wake-up call for single women about getting real about Mr. Right. You have a fulfilling job, great friends, and the perfect apartment. So what if you haven’t found “The One” just yet. He’ll come along someday, right? But what if he doesn’t? Or what if Mr. Right had been, well, Mr. Right in Front of You—but you passed him by? Nearing forty and still single, journalist Lori Gottlieb started to wonder: What makes for lasting romantic fulfillment, and are we looking for those qualities when we’re dating? Are we too picky about trivial things that don’t matter, and not picky enough about the often overlooked things that do? In Marry Him, Gottlieb explores an all-too-common dilemma—how to reconcile the desire for a happy marriage with a list of must-haves and deal-breakers so long and complicated that many great guys get misguidedly eliminated. On a quest to find the answer, Gottlieb sets out on her own journey in search of love, discovering wisdom and surprising insights from sociologists and neurobiologists, marital researchers and behavioral economists—as well as single and married men and women of all generations.

Single, less stressed, and free If you’re tired of swiping through dating apps, ghosting, and hearing well-meaning questions about why you’re still single, it’s hard not to feel “less-than” because you haven’t found your soul mate. Until now. How to Be Single and Happy is an empowering, compassionate guide to stop overanalyzing romantic encounters, get over regrets or guilt about past relationships, and identify what you want and need in a partner. But this isn’t just another dating book. Drawing on her extensive expertise as a clinical psychologist, as well as the latest research, hundreds of patient interviews, and key principles in positive psychology, Dr. Jennifer Taitz challenges the most common myths about women and love (like the advice to play hard to get). And while she teaches how to skillfully date, she’ll also help you cultivate the mindset, values, and connections that ensure you’ll live your best, happiest life, whether single or coupled up.