Loving Someone With Attention Deficit Disorder

Your partner’s attention deficit disorder (ADD) may not seem like a big deal at first, but eventually, the dynamics surrounding his or her impulsivity, forgetfulness, distractibility, and restlessness can really strain your relationship. You don’t want to act like a parent, yet you may feel like you can’t rely on your partner to get things done. Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder is your guide to navigating a relationship with someone with ADD so you can create healthy boundaries while remaining sympathetic to your partner’s symptoms. An essential resource for every couple affected by ADD, this book will help you: • Understand medication and other treatments • Recover quickly when your partner’s symptoms frustrate you • Establish personal boundaries to avoid excessive caretaking • Identify and take care of your own needs so you can feel more relaxed

A revised and updated edition of the classic self-help book that has served as a lifeline to the millions of adults who have ADHD! With over a quarter million copies in print, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is one of the bestselling books on attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder ever written. There is a great deal of literature about children with ADHD, but what do you do if you have ADHD and aren't a child anymore? This indispensable reference—the first of its kind written for adults with ADHD by adults with ADHD—focuses on the experiences of adults, offering updated information, practical how-tos, and moral support to help readers deal with ADHD. It also explains the diagnostic process that distinguishes ADHD symptoms from normal lapses in memory, lack of concentration or impulsive behavior, offering guidance on how your reframe our view of ADHD and embrace its benefits. Here's what's new: The new ADHD medications and their effectiveness The effects of ADHD on human sexuality The differences between male and female ADHD—including falling estrogen levels and its impact on cognitive function The power of meditation ADHD coaching tricks and tips And the book still includes the tried-and-true advice about: Achieving balance by analyzing one's strengths and weaknesses Getting along in groups, at work and in intimate and family relationships—including how to decrease discord and chaos Learning the mechanics and methods for getting organized and improving memory Seeking professional help, including therapy and medication

Winner of four national book awards! Revised First Edition, 2022 Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? has helped thousands of readers worldwide to understand how this highly variable syndrome affects them. Professionals and couples who have elevated their lives with its wisdom recommend it to others. In this highly endorsed, clearly written, and comprehensive guide, Gina Pera guides you in making sense of your own Adult ADHD Roller Coaster. She helps you to: —View ADHD as a variable syndrome affecting individuals, not clones —Realize how a later-in-life ADHD diagnosis creates additional issues —Revise misinterpretations of symptoms, forged long ago, that can thwart progress now —Heal poor coping responses and dysfunctional interaction cycles, as individuals and couples —Implement practical supports to completing routine tasks and reaching long-term goals, with teamwork! —Appreciate how poorly managed ADHD can also negatively affect the spouses and other loved ones. —Delve into "denial's" dual nature — physiological and psychological — and reach through it —Adopt proven approaches that remain extremely rare in clinical settings The science has been clear since 1994, when Adult ADHD was declared a medical diagnosis. Still, the public harbors misconceptions, and that means millions suffer needlessly. That includes millions of couples who can't understand why their lives together are so hard—often despite many attempts at therapy. The simple truth is: Everyone knows someone with adult ADHD. Yet we often misattribute the symptoms to anxiety, depression, or even laziness, selfishness, “addictive personality,” or moodiness. Some assume that ADHD means "little boys with ants in their pants." In fact, childhood hyperactivity goes "underground" as the person matures, resulting in a mentally restless state. Meticulously researched and written by Gina Pera, Is It You, Me, or Adult ADHD? helps you recognizing the behaviors where you least expect them and developing compassion for everyone wrestling with unrecognized ADHD symptoms. It also offers: —Explanations from preeminent experts —Plenty of real-life details —Easy-to-understand, detailed advice on the best treatment options and practical solutions. The revolutionary message is one of hope for millions of people—and a joyous opportunity for a better life.

Navigating adult ADHD in your relationship—simple, effective strategies to strengthen your commitment Communicating and thriving in a neurodiverse relationship is possible. ADHD & Us gives couples the tools and strategies they need to connect as well as overcome the unique challenges they face on the road to long-term happiness and satisfaction. Drawing from Anita Robertson’s years of practice counseling couples with ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder), this honest and straightforward guide helps couples better understand adult ADHD and how it affects relationships, while also providing the tools necessary for both partners to feel understood and respected. Learn how to avoid common conflicts, appreciate your differences, and meet each partner’s needs. Together, you can make it happen. This relationship guide for people with adult ADHD includes: Five pillars of success—Learn about the five relationship pillars—praise, acknowledgement, games, growth mindset, and positive acceptance—and how they are essential in a successful relationship. A practical approach to adult ADHD—Build communication skills and deepen your connection using engaging exercises that allow both partners to share in safe and constructive ways. Modern and inclusive guidance—With expert advice based on the most-up-to-date understandings of adult ADHD, this book is designed for use in all kinds of relationships. Overcome the challenges of dealing with adult ADHD and thrive together with this simple, actionable guide.

People who love or work with someone with ADD often feel conflicted: they want to help, but they don’t want to enable. They value the person’s creativity, but they are exhausted. Stephen Arterburn and Timothy Smith address ten myths about ADD, the pros and cons of medication, foods that help to minimize ADD, twelve strengths of people with ADD, new studies on how to calm the mind, showing empathy even when it’s hard, and more. This fresh look at ADD—not as a malady but as a unique way of thinking—shows readers that ADD doesn’t have to ruin their relationships. In fact, it can make them stronger.

"More and more often, adults are realizing that the reason they are struggling so much in their relationship is that they are impacted by previously undiagnosed adult ADHD. The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD gives concrete answers and strategies to those suffering from adult ADHD that couples can immediately use to improve their relationships. This book addresses questions from both ADHD and non-ADHD partners and provides straightforward advice arranged in a way that makes it easy to find the specific answers couples seek. It covers topics that include diagnosing adult ADHD, how to begin bringing about changes, communication techniques, dealing with anger and frustration, and rebuilding intimacy in a relationship. Part reference manual and part cheerleader, this is the go-to book for couples struggling with ADHD who want to actively work to improve their relationships"--

'If you read only one book about attention deficit disorder, it should be Delivered from Distraction.' Michael Thompson, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of Raising Cain In 1994, Driven to Distraction sparked a revolution in our understanding of attention deficit disorder. Widely recognized as the classic in the field, the book has sold more than a million copies. Now a second revolution is under way in the approach to ADD, and the news is great. Drug therapies, our understanding of the role of diet and exercise, even the way we define the disorder - all are changing radically. And doctors are realizing that millions of adults suffer from this condition, though the vast majority of them remain undiagnosed and untreated. In this new book, Drs Edward M. Hallowell and John J. Ratey build on the breakthroughs of Driven to Distraction to offer a comprehensive and entirely up-to-date guide to living a successful life with ADD. As Hallowell and Ratey point out, 'attention deficit disorder' is a highly misleading description of an intriguing kind of mind. Original, charismatic, energetic, often brilliant, people with ADD have extraordinary talents and gifts embedded in their highly charged but easily distracted minds. Tailored expressly to ADD learning styles and attention spans, Delivered from Distraction provides accessible, engaging discussions of every aspect of the condition, from diagnosis to finding the proper treatment regime. Inside you'll discover: - whether ADD runs in families - new diagnostic procedures, tests, and evaluations - the links between ADD and other conditions - how people with ADD can free up their inner talents and strengths - the new drugs and how they work, and why they're not for everyone - exciting advances in nonpharmaceutical therapies, including changes in diet, exercise, and lifestyle - how to adapt the classic twelve-step program to treat ADD - sexual problems associated with ADD and how to resolve them - strategies for dealing with procrastination, clutter, and chronic forgetfulness ADD is a trait, a way of living in the world. It only becomes a disorder when it impairs your life. Featuring gripping profiles of patients with ADD who have triumphed, Delivered from Distraction is a wise, loving guide to releasing the positive energy that all people with ADD hold inside. If you have ADD or care about someone who does, this is the book you must read.

Do you or a loved one have ADHD and struggle with maintaining healthy relationships? Do you find yourself constantly frustrated and misunderstood in your relationships because of ADHD? Why is it so difficult to love someone with ADHD? Couples in healthy romantic relationships often face challenges such as communication breakdowns, trust issues and differences in values and lifestyles. In relationships where one partner has ADHD, these challenges can be amplified. ADHD can cause difficulties with organisation, time management and emotional regulation, which can lead to misunderstandings and frustration. Additionally, the partner who does not have ADHD may feel neglected or unimportant due to their partner's distractibility and forgetfulness. However, with the right strategies and support, couples can navigate these challenges and build a strong and loving relationship. Couple dynamics are unique and often complex, yet I highly recommend that you read this book if the following feelings surface in your relationship: ·Loneliness, ignored and unappreciated. ·Feeling tired of taking care of everything on your own and being the only responsible party in the relationship. ·Anger and emotional stalemate. Anger and resentment permeate many interactions with the ADHD spouse. ·Feeling that you cannot count on your partner. You always have to organise everything to make up for his or her forgetfulness. ·Frustration. A spouse without ADHD might feel as if the same issues keep coming back over and over again. ·Sometimes it seems that your partner does not care about you. ·Exhaustion and depletion. The spouse without ADHD carries too many responsibilities and no amount of effort seems to fix the relationship. You experience a lot of resentment, but also recognise the need to try and understand the situation. It can be a challenging and complex process. If you are the person with ADHD: ·You may feel constantly criticised for what you do. ·You may not feel respected as an equal when you tend to avoid your partner. ·You may feel like your partner is in control of every aspect of your life. ·You may feel ashamed. Sufferers of ADHD often hide a large amount of shame, sometimes compensating with bluster or retreat. ·You may feel overwhelmed, secretly or overtly, by the constant stress caused by ADHD symptoms. · You may feel different. The brain is often racing, and people with ADHD experience the world in a way that others do not easily understand or relate to. ·You find that the partner without ADHD complains, nags and becomes increasingly resentful, while the ADHD partner feels judged and misunderstood, becomes defensive and pulls away. The individual with ADHD often has a sense that something is wrong, but may struggle to identify the root cause. They may have received a misdiagnosis earlier in life or only learned about their condition as an adult, leading them to believe they were unintelligent or incapable for much of their life. This book is a culmination of years of experience and expertise in maintaining healthy romantic relationships. It contains valuable insights and techniques that are essential to saving your relationship from potential pitfalls that could lead to a breakup. Do not wait until it is too late – get your hands on this book now to safeguard your relationship's future.