Sexual Abuse In Christian Homes And Churches

ÐAs my father abused me he quoted Bible verses to show how bad I was. ÐEach Sunday I'd go to church with my family and hear that God loved me and was watching over me. Then we'd go home and I'd get abused again and wonder why God didn't protect me from these people who went to church. --anonymous survivors This book by a psychotherapist specializing in sexual abuse confronts harsh realities. But Dr. Heggen also offers hope that confronting broken sexuality will bring healing--for survivors of abuse, for perpetrators, for the church.

Molestation has been the forbidden subject for centuries, downplayed in homes, communities, and churches. Although it has existed and has destroyed and still destroying peopleaEUR(tm)s life, molestation has a stigma of aEURoekeep it a secret.aEUR This book is calling this demon out and putting it on notice about molestation. You have been called out and will become the subject in churchaEUR(tm)s sermons, communities, homes, government, and media. Molestation demon, you have been hiding and lurking in the dark for too long. Molestation talks, and issues come out in homes, churches, communities, and news media for a little while and creep back into its dark hiding spots. Molestation strikes day and night 365 days of the year but only is discussed when a high-profile case is exposed in the media. After a few weeks or months, media tends to move on to more important and more comfortable subjects that give great poll ratings. Molestation may come up in a pastoraEUR(tm)s sermon or in prayer but quickly is moved on to other subjects, which seem to not make people feel uncomfortable. Molestation is uncomfortable because it is a demon. Therefore, this book deals with the uncomfortable demon molestation. This book suggests for pastors and leaders to preach and teach on molestation so that the community is reached. Therefore, prevention, healing, and deliverance will take place. This book aims to reach molestation demons in the deep rural country backwoods, communities, and churches that are not in the news. Molestation lurks in those deep dark rural areas that are not covered by the media. This book covers all areas of the world. Molestation has a history of being a cycle for centuries but no more! And this is just the beginning of the spiritual warfare on molestation!

Strengthening families of different varieties and ending abuse in the myriad of forms through which it surfaces is God's way of bringing peace and safety to Christian homes across the world. We challenge congregations, their leaders, and the men, women, and youth who faithfully support them to consider their personal role in bringing this vision--inspired by the Scriptures--into reality. Together our voices can be strong. We are united in our belief that every home should be a safe home, every home a shelter from the storms of life, every home a place where we are supported, treated with respect and dignity, and every home a place where men and women are encouraged to be all they can be. It is a tall order. It is a dream to guide our personal conduct and to measure our congregational and community life. We are far from reaching this goal--but toward it we strive.

Why are spouse and child abuse so frighteningly common in the church? According to the findings of this book’s contributors, the main reason stems from misuse and misunderstanding of the Bible’s teachings on headship and submission. Based on a Christians for Biblical Equality conference, Women, Abuse, and the Bible shows that many abusers see no conflict between their behavior and their Christian beliefs. Some abusers even justify their behavior by citing biblical passages and religious principles. With input from counselors, biblical scholars, an abuser, and survivors, this eye-opening book will: —Compel Christians to recognize the existence of domestic violence. —Offer practical and creative pathways to healing. —Challenge churches to honestly address the issues of domestic, verbal, and clergy abuse, emotional cruelty, sexual harassment, and rape. This book speaks frankly of the way that the Bible can be used to hurt or to heal, to disperse God’s grace or to obstruct it. It serves as a sourcebook for all Christians courageous enough to address the problem.

"Timely and necessary...This book is not only a warning. It is an opportunity. An opportunity to live out the gospel we so passionately proclaim. And it starts with listening."—J.D. Greear, President of the Southern Baptist Convention Time’s Up: Addressing the Unspoken Crisis in the Church We like to think the church is a haven for the hurting. But what happens when it’s not? Author and advocate Mary DeMuth urges the church she loves to rise up and face the evil of sexual abuse and harassment with candor and empathy. Based on research and survivors’ stories, along with fierce fidelity to Scripture, DeMuth unpacks the church’s response to sexual violence and provides a healthy framework for the church to become a haven of healing instead of an institution of judgment. In the throes of the #MeToo movement, our response as Christians is vital. God beckons us to be good Samaritans to those facing trauma and brokenness in the aftermath of abuse and provide safe spaces to heal. DeMuth advocates for a culture of honesty and listening and calls on the church to enter the places where people are hurting. In the circle of that kind of empathetic #WeToo community, the church must become what it’s meant to be—a place of justice and healing for everyone.

Domestic abuse is a horror. It lurks beneath the surface of our collective existence, sometimes raising its ugly head where least expected-in the church or within families of faith. Are we-individually or collectively-ready to respond? What can, or should, congregations and their pastoral leaders do? And, as we survey the Christian landscape across the United States and Canada, are we as the community of faith stepping up to the challenge presented by violence in the family? There is no easy answer to the problems that surface when abuse impacts the Christian family. But each of the authors contributing to this volume believes fervently that it is imperative that followers of Jesus and their spiritual shepherds respond to the cries for help. To respond well necessitates both knowledge and a willingness to act. This book is here to help. It represents a collective effort to bring all of us a step farther in our journey of walking with Christ over a sea of troubled waters. None of us know as much as we should, but all of us can learn from one another. Throughout the collection we provide an opportunity to examine a diversity of perspectives, with the hope that each will in some way advance our understanding of the complexity of domestic violence issues in our midst-within our churches and the communities where our churches minister.

In this comprehensive, practical, and gripping assessment of various forms of violence against women, Pamela Cooper-White challenges the Christian churches to examine their own responses to the cry of Tamar in our time. She describes specific forms of such violence and outlines appropriate pastoral responses. The second edition of this groundbreaking work is thoroughly updated and examines not only where the church has made progress since 1995 but also where women remain at unchanged or even greater risk of violence.

Addresses the most critical legal and moral problem facing the church today -- and shows church leaders how to implement an effective prevention program to reduce this risk [of child sexual abuse].